Women stop having sex, or "sexual desire" for men after they become mother

[BackInTheGame78]

Mostly wrong.

They stop having sex with men who let themselves go physically, don't maintain their respect, and act like another child that requires more work rather than a partner and teammate that helps out and shares the workloads.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

Just like the possibility a woman will try to feign her s3xual interest in you for something she desires in you that isn't found elsewhere is REMOTE, the likelihood a relationship going through changes is going to be met with 2 individuals wanting to stay together rather than split off is equally remote.

The legal field now categorizes this as "irreconcilable differences" for want of a more PC or legalese appropriate way to state "POOF! Magic no more!" There is no guarantee that after you get jacked by a car thief or try to withstand an attacker whereafter both of you get rolled and she's still able to see you as Adonis. There is no guarantee that you won't lose a job and go on a self esteem rollercoaster and begin an acute substance use rampage.

Doesn't matter if you 'bounce back' stronger and better than before. She left you, and even if you make her regret doing so and she sees you doing great with younger, more pretty ladies, you taking her back won't excite her anymore. Even if she says it will, you taking her back after leaving you isn't a proven method of getting her to respect you. Any number of things can happen in life to cause turbulence.

What's the point? I don't know man, but MY point is this; If she knows it in her bones that you're going to survive her losing her jollies for you and you'll be able to get that handled or find another one, it's going to be a LOT less likely that she will actually lose her jollies for you.

The kind of man who will be able to handle that like a beast is the kind of man that women are driven to. Not because of his ability to find another one as a stand alone, but because having that ability comes with many other attractive traits that women WANT to keep close by and will do next to anything to keep that alive. She knows that if that dries up, you WILL go elsewhere. And admission or not, the most staunch of f3minists are drawn to such men as well.

 

[Ricky]

I am curious about reviving desire in a relationship from a womans standpoint. Is it even possible once they shut down things with a boyfriend or husband for it to come back?

I genuinely ask because ive had ex girlfriends want to meet up again but with the woman i married once she light switched me it hasn't come back

it was mostly my fault so i still feel alot of guilt.

 

[Divorced w 3]

It’s due to the husband wife marital dynamics not the wife’s physiology. Even my ex and I did it on a semi regular basis and we have to chat through a third party app now.

 

[intricate design]

Honestly, harshly, if a babe stops wanting a guy it means he messed up somehow. He may not know why, or he may not realize why for weeks months or years later, but ultimately, the guy messed something up. Yup

Men have a lot of responsibility in relationships too but we are basically given no road map. No rules of engagement. We are clueless, really. The vast majority of men never receive the road map and plenty of them that do disregard the rules.

So yeah men mess it up just as much if not more than women do

 

[zekko]

I wonder if some women are insecure about vaginal changes after childbirth?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I am curious about reviving desire in a relationship from a womans standpoint. Is it even possible once they shut down things with a boyfriend or husband for it to come back?

I genuinely ask because ive had ex girlfriends want to meet up again but with the woman i married once she light switched me it hasn't come back

it was mostly my fault so i still feel alot of guilt.

Many times it is feeling underappreciated, left to do most of the work around the house if you share a place and generally feeling like the man is their child rather than their partner.

In these situations it is 100% recoverable if the man is willing to start actually acting like their partner rather than their child. For some men tho, it's not possible, because they ARE actually still a child mentally.

This is where so many men get it wrong... they automatically think that it must be some sort of loss of attraction physically, etc because that's why THEY would lose interest. But women are not men and it just doesn't work like that for many of them.

Women WANT to have sex with men they feel close to, feel heard and feel connected to, and when you feel disconnected, that you are repeatedly being ignored and not heard and feel like they are doing an unfair share of the work, it starts to build resentment towards the man and that starts to make their interest and desire for him dwindle.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I am curious about reviving desire in a relationship from a womans standpoint. Is it even possible once they shut down things with a boyfriend or husband for it to come back?

I genuinely ask because ive had ex girlfriends want to meet up again but with the woman i married once she light switched me it hasn't come back

it was mostly my fault so i still feel alot of guilt.

In the MRP community, the main process was to read the essentials, have an action plan, lift, and STFU. I think the main premise was to create enough “DREAD” for the woman to come back to the man. Initially, I think the process was about six months, and the advice was not to go “Rambo,” although it was recommended to get a lawyer just in case. Lastly, one thing that stood out to me was the number of people complaining about their wives having “starfish” sex and wanted to have real “desire” sex lol.

Either way, from what I saw when I was in there, if the “divorce” talk had already happened, it was eventually inevitable for the couple to divorce. If they hadn’t had that conversation yet, they could sometimes work things out, or it just never reached that point—I never really saw a different outcome. I think most of the members were nerds with a lot of money, hence the passionless sex, but that’s just an assumption of mine. Thankfully, I have never been married

 

[plumber]

In the MRP community, the main process was to read the essentials, have an action plan, lift, and STFU. I think the main premise was to create enough “DREAD” for the woman to come back to the man. Initially, I think the process was about six months, and the advice was not to go “Rambo,” although it was recommended to get a lawyer just in case. Lastly, one thing that stood out to me was the number of people complaining about their wives having “starfish” sex and wanted to have real “desire” sex lol.

Either way, from what I saw when I was in there, if the “divorce” talk had already happened, it was eventually inevitable for the couple to divorce. If they hadn’t had that conversation yet, they could sometimes work things out, or it just never reached that point—I never really saw a different outcome. I think most of the members were nerds with a lot of money, hence the passionless sex, but that’s just an assumption of mine. Thankfully, I have never been married

it can be done, but after the question is always if its good. pretty high percentage of men get emotionally reactive in context. getting total control of self is the baseline. its a really good thing to do at least once and the journey will teach so it doesn't happen again no matter if the man still moves on or not. once the woman actually leaves... her focus is already out so it no longer is possible.

the SS idea that its easier and better to just start new sounds good, but if the man does not fix his problem he will just end in the same pit again. its common for some men to run the pattern over and over and never catch on.

 

[jhonny9546]

and we have to chat through a third party app now.

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Women WANT to have sex with men they feel close to, feel heard and feel connected to, and when you feel disconnected, that you are repeatedly being ignored and not heard and feel like they are doing an unfair share of the work, it starts to build resentment towards the man and that starts to make their interest and desire for him dwindle.

This is a delicate balance; if you've figured it out, kudos to you.
Could you look at a couple and understand the problem?

In the MRP community, the main process was to read the essentials, have an action plan, lift, and STFU. I think the main premise was to create enough “DREAD” for the woman to come back to the man. Initially, I think the process was about six months, and the advice was not to go “Rambo,” although it was recommended to get a lawyer just in case. Lastly, one thing that stood out to me was the number of people complaining about their wives having “starfish” sex and wanted to have real “desire” sex lol.

Either way, from what I saw when I was in there, if the “divorce” talk had already happened, it was eventually inevitable for the couple to divorce. If they hadn’t had that conversation yet, they could sometimes work things out, or it just never reached that point—I never really saw a different outcome. I think most of the members were nerds with a lot of money, hence the passionless sex, but that’s just an assumption of mine. Thankfully, I have never been married

Lifting works, so does setting boundaries, so what's wrong with what they were advising on MRP that was destroying the relationship forever and was therefore being ignored?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

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This is a delicate balance; if you've figured it out, kudos to you.
Could you look at a couple and understand the problem?


Lifting works, so does setting boundaries, so what's wrong with what they were advising on MRP that was destroying the relationship forever and was therefore being ignored?

Why would I care about if I could understand this in someone else's relationship?

That's their job to figure it out in their own relationship, not mine.

 

[MatureDJ]

If sexual desire wanes something else is going on or she never truly desired you from the get-go.

Marry a woman who wants to fvck you and you will not have this problem.

Easier said than done.

 

[jhonny9546]

Easier said than done.

Yes, men will never know if a woman really desire him.
As a man, you can only be sure to be the best man in your life, and then she can follow.

 

[Ricky]

Many times it is feeling underappreciated, left to do most of the work around the house if you share a place and generally feeling like the man is their child rather than their partner.

In these situations it is 100% recoverable if the man is willing to start actually acting like their partner rather than their child. For some men tho, it's not possible, because they ARE actually still a child mentally.

This is where so many men get it wrong... they automatically think that it must be some sort of loss of attraction physically, etc because that's why THEY would lose interest. But women are not men and it just doesn't work like that for many of them.

Women WANT to have sex with men they feel close to, feel heard and feel connected to, and when you feel disconnected, that you are repeatedly being ignored and not heard and feel like they are doing an unfair share of the work, it starts to build resentment towards the man and that starts to make their interest and desire for him dwindle.

Thanks these are really good points. Not only is it possible that a woman feel like her husband is another child, there is also kind of the natural decrease in passion due to living together for so long.

 

[Ricky]

In the MRP community, the main process was to read the essentials, have an action plan, lift, and STFU. I think the main premise was to create enough “DREAD” for the woman to come back to the man. Initially, I think the process was about six months, and the advice was not to go “Rambo,” although it was recommended to get a lawyer just in case. Lastly, one thing that stood out to me was the number of people complaining about their wives having “starfish” sex and wanted to have real “desire” sex lol.

Either way, from what I saw when I was in there, if the “divorce” talk had already happened, it was eventually inevitable for the couple to divorce. If they hadn’t had that conversation yet, they could sometimes work things out, or it just never reached that point—I never really saw a different outcome. I think most of the members were nerds with a lot of money, hence the passionless sex, but that’s just an assumption of mine. Thankfully, I have never been married

Yeah i read a little bit of MRP but the bad part for me was that i had already been pulling alot of the levers regarding lifting and stoic behavior.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Thanks these are really good points. Not only is it possible that a woman feel like her husband is another child, there is also kind of the natural decrease in passion due to living together for so long.

That's because the grass always grows best where there is sunshine and water. You can't grow grass very well in a desert.

Almost always an environment problem, not an actual problem. Ongoing relationships require work to maintain them, and most people stop doing the work then wonder why they walk outside one day and their lawn looks barren.

Essentially slow decreases over time that turn into a huge issue eventually...just like a person doesn't gain 300 lbs in a week, a lot of compounding over time happens in those situations.

 

[Ricky]

That's because the grass always grows best where there is sunshine and water. You can't grow grass very well in a desert.

Almost always an environment problem, not an actual problem. Ongoing relationships require work to maintain them, and most people stop doing the work then wonder why they walk outside one day and their lawn looks barren.

Yeah i definitely f%^ed up my marriage. I just found it troubling once it seemed nothing could be done to recover it. Things used to be always so easy with her that the concept of relationships being work didn't really register with me until it was too late. Throw in a once in a lifetime global pandemic to the mix and it really created the accelerant to burn things down.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Yeah i read a little bit of MRP but the bad part for me was that i had already been pulling alot of the levers regarding lifting and stoic behavior.

I think the main sticking point was that the members who were struggling mainly focused on being stoic and on themselves. They followed everything literally as they read it, but forgot that the main premise was also to “game” their wives. I’m not sure if that was your mistake, but you’ve already crossed that bridge, so it is what it is.

Yeah i definitely f%^ed up my marriage. I just found it troubling once it seemed nothing could be done to recover it. Things used to be always so easy with her that the concept of relationships being work didn't really register with me until it was too late. Throw in a once in a lifetime global pandemic to the mix and it really created the accelerant to burn things down.

You were not the only one. Both of my neighbours, one a white couple in their 50s with three kids, and the other a Filipino couple in their 40s with an 18-year-old daughter, also got divorced during the pandemic and sold their homes.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@BeExcellent "You have to stop assuming everything is a manipulation. Jesus. Authentic desire is exactly that.....AUTHENTIC DESIRE"

To be fair, a substantial amount of "manipulation" is required to induce the opposite sex's desire. Believing, as so many folks do today, that "we should be loved for our authentic self" is no less moronic than believing one can rise to executive ranks in The CJNG, WITHOUT being an utter savage

 

[BeExcellent]

@BeExcellent "You have to stop assuming everything is a manipulation. Jesus. Authentic desire is exactly that.....AUTHENTIC DESIRE"

To be fair, a substantial amount of "manipulation" is required to induce the opposite sex's desire. Believing, as so many folks do today, that "we should be loved for our authentic self" is no less moronic than believing one can rise to executive ranks in The CJNG, WITHOUT being an utter savage

Its not that complicated. If the woman wants to fvck the guy, if she thinks he's dead sexy? Then desire is not going to wane. Its really simple.