"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Women never really on my thoughts.

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FortunateSon

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Women don't seem to bother me anymore. I am not bothered if I score women or not, don't want a relationship, not even bothered I get laid, all of it doesn't seem important to me these days.

I started the gym in July and I am addicted to it, I am starting to develop my abdominals, I am running, rowing and biking a lot to increase my fitness levels. I've taken up a few hobbies, some of those are Go-Kart racing, going to see live bands, playing soccer with friends on a weekly basis and I am focusing on preparing myself for my dream job.

I feel a lot happier and more relaxed in life now that I am not focusing solely on women and I am enjoying it so much that there is no real incentive to try and score women because they're not important to me these days. I couldn't care less if a woman said yes or no to me if I did approach her.

I feel competent and good with this perspective, but my friends find it strange. I am usually their wingman and I am not even interested in doing that anymore.

Have I achieved some form of DJism with this?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Tiguere

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You have the right mindset but sex is a NEED not a WANT. Are you getting it? Is part of the hierarchy of needs if you want to reach the highest form of happiness
 
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European-DJ

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Karting ;) SUPERB HOBBY THERE! :D


- As the other guy said, you need sex. It's in your genes.

On the other hand, i know a lot of guys who enjoy life without women, a lot of theese guys are HUGE Nerds, probably never get laid, not even a kiss.. But imho, they have NOT reached any kind of Dj'Ism by doing that.

But atleast it seems like you does not have fear, a GREAT thing ;)!
 
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Well the words Don Juan always imply a man good with the ladies... but I believe you achieved fulfillment in other aspects of your life. That is the main component that separates the "Don Juanism" taught on this site vs PUA teachings.

You are more social, you are improving yourself and you are having fun. Those are major achievements in and out of themselves.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OP, it sounds like you are indeed a Fortunate Son.

There will come a time when your focus will shift back to the ladies, but for now, enjoy what you are doing as you design your life.
 
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For the record... I've never MB-ed...

And I feel the same as the OP. No subjugation by the pu$$y.

Feels awesome. Feels free...
 
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