Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
My sentiments exactly Aaron.Aaron B said:As the man, I'm expected to risk rejection and approach her, get her number, and invite her on a date.
As the initiator, I choose the date activity. She either chooses to comply or she doesn't.
Since I'm not dependent on this one woman for dates, I don't allow her to dictate to me. I lead, and if she wants to spend time with me, she follows.
Well that's why you read the whole article before commenting. A few paragraphs later she completely contradicts herself as I showed.jafyk said:W I did skim through the article and saw a place the lady said she would pay if the guy asked.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ha ha my man. I'm guilty as charged but remember 2 wrongs don't make a right.ArcBound said:Well that's why you read the whole article before commenting. A few paragraphs later she completely contradicts herself as I showed.
Next time you make a post I'll be sure to only skim and argue based on what I read.