I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Where are the double standards? Both genders hate those who catfish.
yes they should, they should even get up and leave at the very moment they saw she is a lot worse then her picsWomen don't like the idea that balding men wear hats in dating profiles:
https://sheerluxe.com/2018/08/16/are-you-being-‘hatfished’
my opinion: Gee, should men get mad at women who take photos that hide the fact they're FAT?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Perhaps that's the wrong word. Just saying no one likes pictures that are deceiving. For example, I talked about being deceived on a recent Bumble date. Her pictures mostly showed her face and from above. When I met her in person, while she did have the cute face, she did have huge arms and a giant outward ring-shaped waste.
You know ... He will become a target for bashing for years.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When women start taking selfies on a scale, they can talk about it. My golden locks laugh at the article.Women don't like the idea that balding men wear hats in dating profiles:
https://sheerluxe.com/2018/08/16/are-you-being-‘hatfished’
my opinion: Gee, should men get mad at women who take photos that hide the fact they're FAT?
The alternative being hookers or mgtow monk mode. Pick your poison.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Nah, never hurt me...
What kind of hairstyle do you rock? Buzzed, shaved, or just cut short?
Short and spiked but I typically would wear a hat backwards on dates and my success rate actually went up significantly when I started doing it
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
