"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Women in music - then and now

Yo'Mama

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I'll freely admit I'm quite nostalgic for the 1980's.

Recently I've been watching some videos of female groups/singers from that decade on YouTube. I'm talking about artists like:

- The Go Go's

- The Bangles

- Bananarama

- Kim Wilde

- Annie Lennox

The above were all mainstream 80/s singers/groups. But when watching these videos I was struck by how innocent they were . Even if they were singing about love or sex the girls would remain pretty much fully clothed. The girls are sexy but in a very wholesome way. And a lot of the music was edgy and meaningful, albeit in an upbeat way. The music videos themselves were also really humble affairs - often very plain and just showing the girls singing, not trying to be 'mini movies'.

Contrast that to mainstream female singers now.

- Lady GaGa

- Rhianna

- Christina Aguilera

- Shakira.

The videos featuring the above and others almost always seem to contain very overt, in your face, sex. There's nothing innocent or sweetly alluring about it anymore. It's totally brazen and the videos often feature near nudity. Also, in my opinion, the music itself sucks and none of these b*tches have anything of interest to say. It all feels manufactured and over produces.

I'm no prude, of course I like looking at hot, near naked females. But even though they are less hot I find the girls from the '80s actually sexier than the sluts in today's music vids.

Anyway as a wider question I wondered if anybody else would agree that this has had a wider influence and actually girl's today are more likely to display the *****y, girl power, vulgar traits or a Lady GaGa than the sweet but beguiling sexuality of a Go-Go's era Belinda Carlisle for example. Thoughts?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Bangles. Oh how many socks were ruined thinking about Susanna Hoffs. Teenage Warrior had no shame. Although Rhianna would have taken her place in my teenage mind. Seriously teenage boys give zero fvcks. The sexier the better. The 80s were about figuring out how to make music videos, the 90s were about pushing boundaries and after that it's been a free for all.
 

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There used to be some decent female-fronted bands, especially ones in the 90s. That dog, Frente, Garbage, and even Hole made some damn decent music. I'm trying to think of a non-manufactured female-fronted group of today, and I can't think of one.

The 90s may have been about pushing limits, but they were still making REAL music until the Spice Girls showed up. It was all downhill from there.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Desdinova said:
There used to be some decent female-fronted bands, especially ones in the 90s. That dog, Frente, Garbage, and even the band Kurt Cobain wrote half or their **** for made some damn decent music. I'm trying to think of a non-manufactured female-fronted group of today, and I can't think of one.

The 90s may have been about pushing limits, but they were still making REAL music until the Spice Girls showed up. It was all downhill from there.
Fixed. Guano Apes I liked too.
 

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There's an old saying: if there are more dancers onstage than musicians, it sucks.
 

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I don't know if you like country music, but Taylor Swift is pretty popular. Little Big Town (two female vocalists) has a nice sound too.
 

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Dear All,
Well I am hooked on the Afro Americans of the Thirties....Try Bessie Smith or Ethel Waters....The misery,sheer dejection in their voices....For Males I just love Paul Robeson....What a Man...In 1961 I saw him singing in the foundations of the Sydney Opera House....No Roof but he sang to the Workers and filled what was essentially an empty paddock with his incredible voice...he was on his way to East Germany for an operation,first time ha had a passport for umpteen years...What a rough time he had!...you can hear it in his voice.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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