Women Epecting Men To Get The Hint

[The Duke]

Why is it women often expect men to get the hint? Its pretty rare men have that expectation of women.

Sure, sometimes men are oblivious and lack a little awareness, but I'm talking about the times when there were no signs to interpret. The woman flat assumes and gives no hint simply because she doesn't want to discuss the topic is what i see most of the time.

No where in the business world where men and women interact is this accepted, yet its accepted in male/female romantic relationships and women are notorious for assuming he should just get the hint.

Do women do this out of fear of retribution? Does it have something to do with traditional roles where men pursue, and women follow? Is it a lack of female social skills? Is it beause men are more literal/rational,logical and women are the opposite?

Expecting someone to get the hint all the time is poor communication. One can simply misinterpret a simple "hint". Next time you are in this situation, ask her what the magical "hint" actually was? Did she lick her finger and touch her nose? lol. And what in the hell does that mean.

 

[Westminster]

Why is it women often expect men to get the hint? Its pretty rare men have that expectation of women.

Sure, sometimes men are oblivious and lack a little awareness, but I'm talking about the times when there were no signs to interpret. The woman flat assumes and gives no hint simply because she doesn't want to discuss the topic is what i see most of the time.

No where in the business world where men and women interact is this accepted, yet its accepted in male/female romantic relationships and women are notorious for assuming he should just get the hint.

Do women do this out of fear of retribution? Does it have something to do with traditional roles where men pursue, and women follow? Is it a lack of female social skills? Is it beause men are more literal/rational,logical and women are the opposite?

Expecting someone to get the hint all the time is poor communication. One can simply misinterpret a simple "hint". Next time you are in this situation, ask her what the magical "hint" actually was? Did she lick her finger and touch her nose? lol. And what in the hell does that mean.

It's difficult to say with any confidence and I suspect it will vary from woman to woman and different situations, but I suspect it's often a combination of the two things I've highlighted above.

 

[Barrister]

Most women are naturally non-confrontational. Couple that with an exponentially decreasing level of social awareness that is coming from being glued to social media 24/7 and you have women who lack not only said awareness but who think just outright ignoring men and problems makes more sense than being direct in any fashion.

Functionally, they stay trapped around 15 years old when it comes to emotional maturity. When is the last time you had a meaningful, grown-up (in person) conversation with a woman? Even women who I would consider mentally intelligent are mostly completely self-absorbed with themselves and how events affect and people treat them. It is rare to find a woman who has true intuition with and empathy for others.

 

[Mike32ct]

While it seems like required “mind reading” to us men, I think women view it as wanting the guy to have very good attunement skills.

 

[OngBak]

While it seems like required “mind reading” to us men, I think women view it as wanting the guy to have very good attunement skills.

Makes sense, whether they view it that way or not regardless - actually picking up on not so much obvious hints can make you seem socially strong and aware, which is good and which also correlates, especially when you on top that approach things in a socially acceptable way.

 

[Prepostereax]

It's tied to fear of rejection, and the expectation that in romantic matters, she should be pursued.

A woman's value is largely "ornamental".
Many of the priciest things in the world are highly sought after because of their ornamental value (artworks, jewellery, seaside villas, etc)
This means that her value is linked to other people's validation.

Hence a woman is hard-wired to be deathly afraid of rejection, however ridiculous that notion would seem, especially to the blackpill crowd.

 

[The Duke]

While it seems like required “mind reading” to us men, I think women view it as wanting the guy to have very good attunement skills.

I get what you are saying but I was referring to the cases that a guy has zero chance of interpreting her hints.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I was referring to the cases that a guy has zero chance of interpreting her hints.

Sucks to be that guy, then.

One of the skills to become successful with women is learning how to pick up on the hints.

Women are like the egg, men are like the sperm.

She doesn't give a shyte if only a small percentage of the men she's sending signals to can pick up on them.

It's her unconscious evolutionary filters making sure no dumbasses without any social acumen make it through her filters.

Evolution doesn't care about you.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Here’s another way to look at it: Women usually get more practice than men in reading and responding to social cues, especially with the opposite sex, because this training often begins at a young age, earlier and more consistently than it does for men. So when it seems like they expect a man to “get the hint,” it’s often just a communication style they’ve learned over time.

In many romantic situations, attraction has long been expressed through small signals such as gestures, actions, or the way someone dresses because these nonverbal cues can feel more engaging and exciting than simply saying what you mean.

 

[jhonny9546]

Like us men, there are direct and indirect women.

The direct ones have feelings for you, and they'll let you know. Even if they don't say, "Hey, I like you, I want to go out with you," they might do things YOU CAN UNDERSTAND, like touching your arm very sensually and whispering something in your ear or something else.

But I get the Duke's point. There will be others who will do things you'll never know what they mean, and if you then try to play the game, some of them, who seem interested, back off, and then you think you're a fool.

I've always been convinced that this can also help men gauge their level of interest.
If a woman is truly interested in you, you'll really know it, whether you're an inexperienced man or not.
She'll do things that will really let you know, and when you show interest in her, she'll want you even more, not reject you.

However, it's the same as for us.

Lack of social skills
Fear of rejection
Unloving relationship with herself
Preserving her social image

 

[jhonny9546]

Here’s another way to look at it: Women usually get more practice than men in reading and responding to social cues, especially with the opposite sex, because this training often begins at a young age, earlier and more consistently than it does for men. So when it seems like they expect a man to “get the hint,” it’s often just a communication style they’ve learned over time.

In many romantic situations, attraction has long been expressed through small signals such as gestures, actions, or the way someone dresses because these nonverbal cues can feel more engaging and exciting than simply saying what you mean.

But this isn't in line with what you want from your life as a man, that's why you don't just think about it.
As a man, you're not focused on this; maybe you do it for fun, 1 minute out of every 24 hours of your life, but otherwise, we men are wired to be logical and interested in things that improve our lives and bring resources.
Women, on the other hand, are wired to be masters at "wasting time" on these nonsense things. The game

 

[Clockwerk50]

But this isn't in line with what you want from your life as a man, that's why you don't just think about it.
As a man, you're not focused on this; maybe you do it for fun, 1 minute out of every 24 hours of your life, but otherwise, we men are wired to be logical and interested in things that improve our lives and bring resources.
Women, on the other hand, are wired to be masters at "wasting time" on these nonsense things. The game

This is irrelevant to the topic at hand, but men also want to be lured away from the masculine world of responsibilities, competition, logic, and action, and to spend time in the feminine world of luxury, spectacle, and pleasure.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Why is it women often expect men to get the hint? Its pretty rare men have that expectation of women.

Sure, sometimes men are oblivious and lack a little awareness, but I'm talking about the times when there were no signs to interpret. The woman flat assumes and gives no hint simply because she doesn't want to discuss the topic is what i see most of the time.

No where in the business world where men and women interact is this accepted, yet its accepted in male/female romantic relationships and women are notorious for assuming he should just get the hint.

Do women do this out of fear of retribution? Does it have something to do with traditional roles where men pursue, and women follow? Is it a lack of female social skills? Is it beause men are more literal/rational,logical and women are the opposite?

Expecting someone to get the hint all the time is poor communication. One can simply misinterpret a simple "hint". Next time you are in this situation, ask her what the magical "hint" actually was? Did she lick her finger and touch her nose? lol. And what in the hell does that mean.

Because they are CATHOLIC lolz

That or phucked out and desiring Prince Beta Perfect to save her.

 

[plumber]

it redirects from the content of the idea to the topic of not getting the hint. the fault of not getting the hint is useful for her internal frame. it also is a direct measure of interest. very high interest will never allow the man to not get the hint, it will be immediately clarified.

its all emotional manipulation. some on purpose and some by instinct.

this is the category of things to just ignore, no power unless it bothers us.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Short answer:

Women aren't men, thus there's a hard limit to their ability to understand how we operate VS how they do, including the way we communicate, ESPECIALLY in-person

Paraphrase Hugh Hefner: Gender IS NOT comparable to skin color and ethnicity. Men and women really ARE different, even if similar in some respects

 

[Divorced w 3]

Wait, so you’re saying women withhold their real feelings?

 

[Bokanovsky]

Why is it women often expect men to get the hint? Its pretty rare men have that expectation of women.

Sure, sometimes men are oblivious and lack a little awareness, but I'm talking about the times when there were no signs to interpret. The woman flat assumes and gives no hint simply because she doesn't want to discuss the topic is what i see most of the time.

No where in the business world where men and women interact is this accepted, yet its accepted in male/female romantic relationships and women are notorious for assuming he should just get the hint.

Do women do this out of fear of retribution? Does it have something to do with traditional roles where men pursue, and women follow? Is it a lack of female social skills? Is it beause men are more literal/rational,logical and women are the opposite?

Expecting someone to get the hint all the time is poor communication. One can simply misinterpret a simple "hint". Next time you are in this situation, ask her what the magical "hint" actually was? Did she lick her finger and touch her nose? lol. And what in the hell does that mean.

It has to do with what women like to call “lack of emotional intelligence”. Or, as I call it, lack of intelligence, period.

One thing I’ve noticed over the years, both in my personal and professional life, is that many women are bad communicators. This is ironic because women love to harp about men’s supposedly poor communication skills. Women alternate between verbal diarrhea, when they would say literally anything that comes to mind, and attempting telekinesis, when they assume that you must be thinking the same thing that they’re thinking.

Good communication requires effective delivery. If the intended recipient is not getting the message, unless he or she is severely retarded, the problem lies with the messenger.

 

[zekko]

I get what you are saying but I was referring to the cases that a guy has zero chance of interpreting her hints.

Yeah, but that's from the guy's perspective. I don't think women view it that way. They seem to think their oblivious clues are obvious.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Women generally love plausible deniability becuase their egos and self confidences tend to be very fragile

Another part of it is that women are happy to go with whatever vibe is giving them the most flutters

A woman could give two completely different guys 1-2 seconds worth of eye contact in a bar or restaurant , which one gets the chance at sleeping with her depends on which approaches her and which gives her the best feelings

They rarely want to be directly accountable for anything even their own decisions

 

[Redwood]

What if he doesn't like her? Then this would be the inverse, correct?