I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
And this is what people need to understand, Nice but a backbone.expos said:It's actually a good article...if your read between the lines.
They want a nice guy = polite, listens, cares, attentive to an extent.
But what they also want are some Alpha Traits = not a pushover, not needy, takes the lead, having your own passions + goals.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You really shouldn't be speaking about "the matrix". You are kaylan from Loveshack, the guy who posts stuff like this:Jaylan said:Many of you have unplugged from one matrix and into another.
You have no business giving advice on this board. Go back to LSWhens the last time you had an truly intense first kiss?
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/398394-whens-last-time-you-had-truly-intense-first-kiss
Let's talk about crushes
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/384020-lets-talk-about-crushes
Feeling super unattractive at the moment.
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/364987-feeling-super-unattractive-moment
Shes REALLY hurt that I need space and I feel HORRIBLE.... ?
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/307844-shes-really-hurt-i-need-space-i-feel-horrible
The modern female is a lioness
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/343697-modern-female-lioness
ThisBokanovsky said:It's true that most women dream about Prince Charming. Few women fantasize about guys giving them a black eye or cheating on them with their best friend or turning them out to do tricks. What the article fails to mention is that, in the real world, women respond poorly to guys who are nothing but noble and kind to them. They start taking advantage of such men and eventually lose attraction and respect for them.
Women are attracted to bad boys for a very simple reason. They don't take sh*t from women and are quick to put them in their place. That's something that, from my observation, women respond very positively to.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Im a guy who dates without issue and Im not allowed to give advice? Lmao.Bokanovsky said:You really shouldn't be speaking about "the matrix". You are kaylan from Loveshack, the guy who posts stuff like this:
You have no business giving advice on this board. Go back to LS![]()
*they'reTheException said:Didnt even read...title says it all. Women are incapable of understanding attraction because their emotional not logical.
this is quite true..expos said:It's actually a good article...if your read between the lines.
They want a nice guy = polite, listens, cares, attentive to an extent.
But what they also want are some Alpha Traits = not a pushover, not needy, takes the lead, having your own passions + goals.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.