"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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joe45

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i'm asian btw and i noticed that women as a whole don;t flirt with me or show any interests this is espcially with asian women most of em are quite and shy and they aren't very talktive. i donlt think i had a asian gal all smiling and flirty wiht me ever if it was its was just friends kind of way. how about ui guys. i hear guys in some other forums and this one too saying women flirting with em and teasing em and talking to em .... well it never happens to me. most gals just talk to me like normally and thats it nothing more or less.
are women as a whole more consverative nowadays- go to college in my 20's. i also find that as a guy i have to put a lottt of effort on my part to get to now the girl or if not they won't notice me or anything. is it that hard
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BrotherAP

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Joel, dude... (yeah I recognize you from that other message board)

Did you read any part of the DJ bible? Women flirt in response to a man confidently flirting with them. You're sitting at your computer trying to figure out why girls aren't flirting with you... but you should be figuring out why you aren't flirting with girls. It's not rocket science -- but you have a long way to go.. So get going.

It's like your looking for a quick fix when you need a complete overhaul.

Start here http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/wms.pdf
 

Marf

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Yep....

study the DJ Bible REAL HARD....then just get out and try this sh1t out man! As soon as you reframe and see yourself as a man everyone wants, you'll notice how stuff changes (thats what happened to me ;) )

Btw... REVIEW REVIEW REVIEW....that way you really wont need to ask any more questions.
 

Craig Reeves

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Hm.

OK, here's something that most guys don't seem to get.

When you approach a woman and start a conversation, YOU are the one in control. YOU'RE like the conductor, and she's like the orchestra.

If you want the dynamic of the conversation to be flirtatious, it is YOUR responsibility to MAKE it that way.

Good Luck!
 
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