"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Women do have it better than men. But that's ok.

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Yes, it's true that women can just walk outside and get hit on, while as a man you have to improve yourself, have a good job, work out, be good looking, etc. to even get a chance to flirt with a woman.

But this shouldn't make you bitter. No one said life was fair. If you're butthurt over this, then you'll never have success.

Women have their share of problems that we will never have to face - domestic violence, rape, pregancy, etc. So their lives aren't perfect either.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Actually none of that sh!t matters in the long run. If you can make a girl's vagina tingle with your words you'll be okay. Get #rekt.
 

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skinnyguy said:
Yes, it's true that women can just walk outside and get hit on, while as a man you have to improve yourself, have a good job, work out, be good looking, etc. to even get a chance to flirt with a woman.

But this shouldn't make you bitter. No one said life was fair. If you're butthurt over this, then you'll never have success.

Women have their share of problems that we will never have to face - domestic violence, rape, pregancy, etc. So their lives aren't perfect either.
ATTRACTIVE women have it better.. not women in general.

Also.. EVERYONE already knows this. Another wise and insightful post from SoSuave's very own Captain Obvious. :up:
 

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I am so confused right now
 

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PlayHer Man said:
ATTRACTIVE women have it better.. not women in general.

Also.. EVERYONE already knows this. Another wise and insightful post from SoSuave's very own Captain Obvious. :up:
Yup in the posts I've made, I was implying only the attractive women have it the easiest, actually to make it more specific, attractive YOUNG women!, mainly when they are in their late teens to throughout their 20's and to some extent their early 30's, such as Hooters girls for example, cheerleaders, yes women do have to deal with pregnancy, periods, rape, domestic violence, and having to put up with random creepers, weirdos hitting on them, approaching them, but all of these things are things that don't necessarily prevent them from getting laid, getting a relationship, since they don't have to open their mouths in order to attract us guys, we are already instantly attracted to them from the moment we lock eyes on them
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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JaegerPilot217 said:
Yup in the posts I've made, I was implying only the attractive women have it the easiest, actually to make it more specific, attractive YOUNG women!, mainly when they are in their late teens to throughout their 20's and to some extent their early 30's, such as Hooters girls for example, cheerleaders, yes women do have to deal with pregnancy, periods, rape, domestic violence, and having to put up with random creepers, weirdos hitting on them, approaching them, but all of these things are things that don't necessarily prevent them from getting laid, getting a relationship, since they don't have to open their mouths in order to attract us guys, we are already instantly attracted to them from the moment we lock eyes on them
Is it really just attractive women though? I thought that even obese women on POF are getting laid. Some guy posted a story on here about how some fat chick he knew would get a ton of emails and then pick the guy with the biggest junk to come over and fvck her.

Anyway, like I said these women have many issues too. Even though they are getting hit on 10-15 times a day, many of those guys are losers and they might end up becoming a single mommy from some dbag. I like to think that I'm the one who has it good, because I'm in control of my own destiny. If I don't get laid it's my fault, and if I do, it's also because of my own actions.

Another thing - as a guy you can be in your mid 30's and not have pressures to get married while women start to freak out if they haven't had a baby by 30.
 

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PlayHer Man said:
ATTRACTIVE women have it better.. not women in general.
actually, attractive people have it better, not just women, attractive people live completely different lives than people who are regular or ugly
 

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foreverAFC said:
actually, attractive people have it better, not just women, attractive people live completely different lives than people who are regular or ugly
This is very true. That's why its been said time and time again that your looks are your best asset. And you can always improve them.:up:
 

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foreverAFC said:
actually, attractive people have it better, not just women, attractive people live completely different lives than people who are regular or ugly
Yeah but, I'm very attractive and my life kind of sucks right now. I think people are probably nicer to me because of it, but I wouldnt know the difference because thats what im used to.
 

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skinnyguy said:
Is it really just attractive women though? I thought that even obese women on POF are getting laid. Some guy posted a story on here about how some fat chick he knew would get a ton of emails and then pick the guy with the biggest junk to come over and fvck her.

Anyway, like I said these women have many issues too. Even though they are getting hit on 10-15 times a day, many of those guys are losers and they might end up becoming a single mommy from some dbag. I like to think that I'm the one who has it good, because I'm in control of my own destiny. If I don't get laid it's my fault, and if I do, it's also because of my own actions.

Another thing - as a guy you can be in your mid 30's and not have pressures to get married while women start to freak out if they haven't had a baby by 30.
Well I don't consider being in control of my own destiny to be a luxury, I consider it a chore, women never have to take responsibility, but men are dealt with the card of responsibility for everything
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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attractive, CONFIDENT people have it better.

looks don't count for sh1t unless you are confident.
 

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foreverAFC said:
actually, attractive people have it better, not just women, attractive people live completely different lives than people who are regular or ugly

I'll agree with this although it's important not to be victimized by it. I think that attractiveness can be a blessing and a curse. A lot of attractive people get married and divorced 5 times. I'm not sure I would want that kind of drama...or wondering if I was getting cheated on by my hot partner.

If you're only concerned about superficial stuff you'll probably never be happy. If you realize your self worth you'll probably be much happier. As you get older, superficial qualities start to fade.
 

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But if gathering information from research, it seems to be the case that women have it easiest when they are young, like teens, 20's, and very early 30's, but for men, i'm not sure its a matter if it does truly get easier for us as we get older, I would say we can keep our attractiveness much longer than women can
 
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Yeah but, I'm very attractive and my life kind of sucks right now. I think people are probably nicer to me because of it, but I wouldnt know the difference because thats what im used to.
Embrace it, baby. :)

Try getting fat for awhile, and you will know. ;) A whole new world.
 
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JaegerPilot217 said:
But if gathering information from research, it seems to be the case that women have it easiest when they are young, like teens, 20's, and very early 30's, but for men, i'm not sure its a matter if it does truly get easier for us as we get older, I would say we can keep our attractiveness much longer than women can
Provided that you make the effort to keep it. :)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The Simple Man said:
Provided that you make the effort to keep it. :)
Yup makes sense but in the meantime women have it easy when they are young, especially late teens to mid 20's, probably 18-27 is when they have it the easiest, yes I know and I am completely aware they have to deal with guys they are not into hitting on them and asking them out, but even when they do meet their ideal guy, a guy they want, they didn't have to put forth much social effort in order to attract him, the way they talk, spoke, words and sentences that came out of their mouth usually does not mean much even to the right guy, but meanwhile us guys have to be very careful on how we talk, speak, etc., I think David DeAngelo once said that a Mans attraction for a Woman happens like a light switch, meanwhile a Woman's attraction for a Man is like volume knobs
 

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skinnyguy said:
Women have their share of problems that we will never have to face - domestic violence, rape, pregancy, etc. So their lives aren't perfect either.
domestic violence and rape = problem for men also the difference being that if a man is the offender he gets jail, but if the woman is the offender, the victim will be laughed at for not being man enough. but here's the catch. even if you were man enough to not let her do it , she will turn you in as the aggressor, and it is still the man who gets punished.

pregnancy
? ok whatever, see this is also biased against men. if your girl tells you she takes pills, or gives you a broken condom or for whatever reason she gets pregnant, you are the douche. and you are responsible (the blame is on the man). if, after you find out she tricked you into her becoming pregnant and you trick her back like slipping a morning-after pill, it is also you who is the douche.

or if you didn't catch her, she will just keep the baby and you will have to pay her for the rest of your life. (blame is on the man)

you also cannot get her to abort if you do not want the kid, and also cannot stop her from abortion if you want the kid.

so ... erm... not the best examples.
 

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Women may have it easy but whenever I've just shot a huge load in their mouth, I think maybe life isn't so easy for them after all.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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