Okay, I follow you. Makes sense. It just seems to me like it's more in the processing stage that they get screwed up. Input - understood. Processing - bombarded with too much conflicting "logic"...can't process, Output - "I'm totally, utterly confused!"joekerr31 said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Women DO have at least some capacity for reason
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Master Don Juan
well one would think so...STR8UP said:
I think you have the girls confused.MatureDJ said:
The chick who asked me "where do you see this going" was the LTR, and she was TOTALLY attracted to me, even through the end. Up until I dumped her and she found a new man, then I was a piece of sh!t, but that's another story....
The one who is getting married, there WAS a dude who came along while we were seeing each other, but we weren't even technically in a relationship and had never had any kind of serious relationship talk.
This isn't 100% true but I'd say that it is 90% true: Women are givers to their children, now and/or future unborn. She cares about them more than she cares about herself. But when it comes to men, women are takers. Their primary biological drive is to secure resources AND the best sperm for themselves and their children. If that means nabbing a chode for a LTR (to provide) and having flings with a bad boy alpha dude (for the sperm), a lot of them will do it.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.