Okay, I follow you. Makes sense. It just seems to me like it's more in the processing stage that they get screwed up. Input - understood. Processing - bombarded with too much conflicting "logic"...can't process, Output - "I'm totally, utterly confused!"joekerr31 said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Women DO have at least some capacity for reason
- Thread starter STR8UP
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
well one would think so...STR8UP said:
I think you have the girls confused.MatureDJ said:
The chick who asked me "where do you see this going" was the LTR, and she was TOTALLY attracted to me, even through the end. Up until I dumped her and she found a new man, then I was a piece of sh!t, but that's another story....
The one who is getting married, there WAS a dude who came along while we were seeing each other, but we weren't even technically in a relationship and had never had any kind of serious relationship talk.
This isn't 100% true but I'd say that it is 90% true: Women are givers to their children, now and/or future unborn. She cares about them more than she cares about herself. But when it comes to men, women are takers. Their primary biological drive is to secure resources AND the best sperm for themselves and their children. If that means nabbing a chode for a LTR (to provide) and having flings with a bad boy alpha dude (for the sperm), a lot of them will do it.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.