The last few weeks I have had more women making their way into my life then ever. Old girls are coming back, new girls are popping up. Talking to an older female coworker, she said it's just that season. The winter, holidays, nobody wants to be alone during this time. Honestly, I'm focused on my health and career right now, I can't be bothered with having anything more than a FB.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Women coming into my life....
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Heh heh outstanding work Warrior.
The b!tches are falling into your lap like manna from Heaven.
The b!tches are falling into your lap like manna from Heaven.
Well its weird. I'm not doing anything at all. I'm not running any game. I'm not even trying. Seriously, I am dealing with some health issues and a struggling business...women aren't my priority at all at the moment. I just want an occasional bit of fun.
3countriesPlan
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I'm considering moving to Southern China and I just bagged some chick who came to my house. She will visit me if I move there.. awww.. haha hey so if sh1t hits the fan financially we get more azz? This is nuts.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Solomon
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Warrior74 said:
How is the bussiness?
It's weird when you ain't trying thats when they come (true) when you are trying that's when they run
*sigh*
sodbuster
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When you aren't trying[dating a keeper,married,work etc] you have a different look/vibe.When you are looking at women like a kid in the candy store with no money[OMG I WANT that],you never get one. When you've got other things going on, they notice the lack of attention and want it. I haven't figured out how to keep it steady and I'm almost 50. I've just learned to go with the flow[try to stock up some for the dry times,but haven't been too successful-yet]
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This is very, very true, and I have pondered the desparity between the urgency of the pickup game and the real world results of not giving a fvck. Despite leaving AFCness behind, I believe the feast and famine phenomenon will always be there, if not always so all or nothing.
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I've been in that situation countless times(didn't try, pre-occupied with other things, showed a lack of attention), still didn't have an effect. Some things just aren't meant to be.sodbuster said:
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Ah, you said it. "It's weird". No "game" needed. It is generally understood that in order to pull the babes, running "game" is a pre-requisite. So, what else could it be? Ever think it was just the way things were supposed to play out? Fate? I know the "fate" lectures are getting old, but this example(your response) is a good way to illustrate my point. Some things are meant to be, some aren't. Doesn't matter how suave you are or not, some things just aren't meant to be.Warrior74 said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I often find with women that it's pouring women or a draught, feast or faminine. There seems no explanation. Sometimes when I'm thinking I should be attracting women I'm not and when I think I'm not at my best I'm attracting more women.
It's always fun to read things you wrote and reflect on em.
I ended up with about 6 girls coming at me. I still have two of them, I got em in a rotation. I see one twice a week and the other once a week. Still focused on making money and dealing with my health. Business is steady and picking up, I haven't really been going out much lately, not much time.
I ended up with about 6 girls coming at me. I still have two of them, I got em in a rotation. I see one twice a week and the other once a week. Still focused on making money and dealing with my health. Business is steady and picking up, I haven't really been going out much lately, not much time.
DavenJuan
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i think it has more to do with how YOU feel which reflects outside and is visible to not just women, but men too.Colossus said:
Warrior..
Im willing to bet during this time, when you went out, your friends enjoyed your company, you were fun to be around, etc.
peaks and valleys are all created by you..subconciously
it could take only ONE female that shows interest in you. its more about you you RESPOND to that one persons interest that can trigger this.
just the same way it can trigger "droughts" when you arent getting this reciprocated in your direction.
as the saying goes....
" its written all over your face"
I could see that. I definately had the mindset that I was a player, and I'm here to have fun and I was a big ass flirt during that time when I went out. I went out for my own amusement and just had my own fun.
But a lcouple of them were girls that were coming back, some nexted girls, some I used to have as FBs. just the timing.
The two I picked up where an old FB and a New chic I just met and went out with. The old FB dropped me cause I was AFC when I met her (fresh out of my divorce and gunshy as hell, she told me today that if I was the way i am now she would not have talked to me (intimidated) because I'm so sure of myself and have confidence, but she says that also why she's attracted to me now. She's wanting a relationship with me now, when she was the one who broke it off before. I just treat her like an FB and don't get all emotional like I was then.
But a lcouple of them were girls that were coming back, some nexted girls, some I used to have as FBs. just the timing.
The two I picked up where an old FB and a New chic I just met and went out with. The old FB dropped me cause I was AFC when I met her (fresh out of my divorce and gunshy as hell, she told me today that if I was the way i am now she would not have talked to me (intimidated) because I'm so sure of myself and have confidence, but she says that also why she's attracted to me now. She's wanting a relationship with me now, when she was the one who broke it off before. I just treat her like an FB and don't get all emotional like I was then.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Yeah it's f*ckin' weird man. It really trips you the f*ck out. Life is too strange. Although with me, when I have the "feast", it's usually a month or two apart. One woman one month, another the next, or next 2 months.ketostix said:
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It is an interesting phenomenon. My LTR moved out on a Saturday in early February. I decided to go out for a beer that night with some folks from work and run into the best FB I ever had. Hadn't seen her in over two years! Fast forward to a couple of months later and I've got four more in rotation. Of course, none of it means much to me. I am walking through the Valley of Death in my soul right now like so many of us are...