The last few weeks I have had more women making their way into my life then ever. Old girls are coming back, new girls are popping up. Talking to an older female coworker, she said it's just that season. The winter, holidays, nobody wants to be alone during this time. Honestly, I'm focused on my health and career right now, I can't be bothered with having anything more than a FB.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Women coming into my life....
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
KontrollerX
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Heh heh outstanding work Warrior.
The b!tches are falling into your lap like manna from Heaven.
The b!tches are falling into your lap like manna from Heaven.
Well its weird. I'm not doing anything at all. I'm not running any game. I'm not even trying. Seriously, I am dealing with some health issues and a struggling business...women aren't my priority at all at the moment. I just want an occasional bit of fun.
3countriesPlan
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I'm considering moving to Southern China and I just bagged some chick who came to my house. She will visit me if I move there.. awww.. haha hey so if sh1t hits the fan financially we get more azz? This is nuts.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Solomon
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Warrior74 said:
How is the bussiness?
It's weird when you ain't trying thats when they come (true) when you are trying that's when they run
*sigh*
sodbuster
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When you aren't trying[dating a keeper,married,work etc] you have a different look/vibe.When you are looking at women like a kid in the candy store with no money[OMG I WANT that],you never get one. When you've got other things going on, they notice the lack of attention and want it. I haven't figured out how to keep it steady and I'm almost 50. I've just learned to go with the flow[try to stock up some for the dry times,but haven't been too successful-yet]
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This is very, very true, and I have pondered the desparity between the urgency of the pickup game and the real world results of not giving a fvck. Despite leaving AFCness behind, I believe the feast and famine phenomenon will always be there, if not always so all or nothing.
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I've been in that situation countless times(didn't try, pre-occupied with other things, showed a lack of attention), still didn't have an effect. Some things just aren't meant to be.sodbuster said:
edger
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Ah, you said it. "It's weird". No "game" needed. It is generally understood that in order to pull the babes, running "game" is a pre-requisite. So, what else could it be? Ever think it was just the way things were supposed to play out? Fate? I know the "fate" lectures are getting old, but this example(your response) is a good way to illustrate my point. Some things are meant to be, some aren't. Doesn't matter how suave you are or not, some things just aren't meant to be.Warrior74 said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I often find with women that it's pouring women or a draught, feast or faminine. There seems no explanation. Sometimes when I'm thinking I should be attracting women I'm not and when I think I'm not at my best I'm attracting more women.
It's always fun to read things you wrote and reflect on em.
I ended up with about 6 girls coming at me. I still have two of them, I got em in a rotation. I see one twice a week and the other once a week. Still focused on making money and dealing with my health. Business is steady and picking up, I haven't really been going out much lately, not much time.
I ended up with about 6 girls coming at me. I still have two of them, I got em in a rotation. I see one twice a week and the other once a week. Still focused on making money and dealing with my health. Business is steady and picking up, I haven't really been going out much lately, not much time.
DavenJuan
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i think it has more to do with how YOU feel which reflects outside and is visible to not just women, but men too.Colossus said:
Warrior..
Im willing to bet during this time, when you went out, your friends enjoyed your company, you were fun to be around, etc.
peaks and valleys are all created by you..subconciously
it could take only ONE female that shows interest in you. its more about you you RESPOND to that one persons interest that can trigger this.
just the same way it can trigger "droughts" when you arent getting this reciprocated in your direction.
as the saying goes....
" its written all over your face"
I could see that. I definately had the mindset that I was a player, and I'm here to have fun and I was a big ass flirt during that time when I went out. I went out for my own amusement and just had my own fun.
But a lcouple of them were girls that were coming back, some nexted girls, some I used to have as FBs. just the timing.
The two I picked up where an old FB and a New chic I just met and went out with. The old FB dropped me cause I was AFC when I met her (fresh out of my divorce and gunshy as hell, she told me today that if I was the way i am now she would not have talked to me (intimidated) because I'm so sure of myself and have confidence, but she says that also why she's attracted to me now. She's wanting a relationship with me now, when she was the one who broke it off before. I just treat her like an FB and don't get all emotional like I was then.
But a lcouple of them were girls that were coming back, some nexted girls, some I used to have as FBs. just the timing.
The two I picked up where an old FB and a New chic I just met and went out with. The old FB dropped me cause I was AFC when I met her (fresh out of my divorce and gunshy as hell, she told me today that if I was the way i am now she would not have talked to me (intimidated) because I'm so sure of myself and have confidence, but she says that also why she's attracted to me now. She's wanting a relationship with me now, when she was the one who broke it off before. I just treat her like an FB and don't get all emotional like I was then.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Yeah it's f*ckin' weird man. It really trips you the f*ck out. Life is too strange. Although with me, when I have the "feast", it's usually a month or two apart. One woman one month, another the next, or next 2 months.ketostix said:
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It is an interesting phenomenon. My LTR moved out on a Saturday in early February. I decided to go out for a beer that night with some folks from work and run into the best FB I ever had. Hadn't seen her in over two years! Fast forward to a couple of months later and I've got four more in rotation. Of course, none of it means much to me. I am walking through the Valley of Death in my soul right now like so many of us are...