“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Women can be Shameless Attention Seekers

STR8UP

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Especially younger ones.

The good thing is, if you pay attention it's easy to spot most of the time. You can then make the conscious choice whether to avoid her altogether, or use the situation to YOUR benefit.

I get a text yesterday from a younger chick I banged a few years ago who is going to school about 3 hours away. Off and on she hits me up trying to get me to drive down to see her.

chick- [city where she attends school] is calling your name!

str8- Calling my name huh? What exactly is it saying?

chick- [name of chick] needs an old friend, I guess.

str8- Why, what's new?

chick- Just got back from vacation and broke up with b/f.

str8- He wasn't right for you anyway. (I had no idea who the b/f was....I was being facetious)

chick- And that is why I love you str8, thanks for that


We went back and forth a couple more times, and I tell her I might be in that area on business in a few weeks but I don't know if I'll be able to see her, and that until then she should eat a bunch of ice cream and listen to some cheesy 80's love songs and she'll feel better. She uses the word "friend" again before the end of the convo.

So what she is telling me is that she wants me to come give her some attention, but the "friend" thing was her disclaimer that she isn't interested in hooking up.

When I was a snot nosed punk 10-15 years ago i would have jumped at the opportunity to have a 1 in 100 chance of getting laid because I didn't realize the odds were so low. I would have just assumed that since we had fukked in the past, that it was in the bag.

I am actually going to be headed down that way in a few weeks, but I know two other chicks in the area that I might try to set something up with. If both of those fall through I might try to get a free place to crash for the night from the college chick.

It's just good to know that when you are able to recognize the situation for what it is, you can go in without expectations and use it for your own benefit.

Some would say to completely avoid her, but with zero emotional attachment and the ability to leave your d!ck and your ego out of the equation you can go into an interaction like this without negative consequences.

It's great to know what makes women tick....
 

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samspade said:
Your response was two-pronged in its effectiveness.

It let her know you have bigger fish to fry and aren't interested in being her emotional tampon, AND it upped the ante for her if she actually wants something more than emotional satisfaction.

Sometimes I wish I could travel back in time and apply everything I know to my younger self. I'm sure your little "friend" will find some local AFC orbiter to come over and offer his shoulder to cry on.

diddo..

thats the biggest thing. being able to IDENTIFY women like this.. or even moreso these type of situations.

ive wasted plenty gas and grief chasing women who used me to be there girlfriend relief in the past.

i still would give her a shout out when in town if the others didnt pan out. no skin off your back either way brother
 

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I think it's the equivalent of men going out and banging the first chick that gives them time of day after a breakup--only women seek validation on a non-sexual level.

It's little consolation for a woman to know that a guy wants to sleep with her (since that's a given in our society); she wants to know that she still can make a guy jump through hoops. This is why the "rebound guy" usually gets very little action.
 

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Hey SR8TUP,
You obviously know this girl better than I but I take it she actually MEANS she doesn't want to bang you? I've had numerous young hotties pull that **** and have come to the conclusion that most of the time they are setting it up so they can blame me for inciting their devious, slutty behavior. I'm obviously fine with that.

I invited this 22 year old to go snowboarding back in February and she on several occasions eluded to the fact that I shouldn't be expecting a hookup. I almost didn't take her but I kept getting this vibe she wanted me to make her air tight. After a long, snowy day on the mountain we retired to my condo and I tastefully blew her back out.

Is some playful teasing about the real reason she's wanting you to visit being she's horny out of the question? Not worth it? Just curious.
 

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If it's an attempt to preemptively absolve guilt I don't think she would have said it that way. The "Friend" word is a curse when it comes from a woman.

This chick was TOTALLY in love with me for about a year. Like, tried to move here just so she could date me. Now I think it's a case of "what once was". That window tends to close after a period of time, with younger chicks especially.

She is a flaky college chick. When she started back in school here in our state (3 hrs away), she said she wanted us to have a LDR. CHeeaaaaaa right......

Could I hit it? I would say the chances are probably a lot better than I alluded to initially, but less than 50/50. One of those things where if I'm there anyway I might as well try and if it doesn't happen, oh well, didn't expect it to.

The whole point of this thread though is that as long as you have that level of awareness, you can separate your emotions, ego, and your c0ck from the equation and then you are no longer dependent upon outcomes. That doesn't mean I would drive 3 hours to hang out with her, but if I'm only 20-30 minutes down the road, why not hang out and go with the flow?

I mean, if I have the choice to hang out with a cute 23 yr old or watch t.v. at the hotel which am I gonna pick?

The other two chicks will actually be closer to where my business meetings are. One of them would only be good for a couple of drinks and some convo, the other one is 23-24yr old hottie that I have a feeling I might actually get some action from if I was ever able to get some face time. She's an ER nurse that works 12 hr graveyard shifts though, so that makes it tough. The college chick I would at least have a place to crash for free.

Eh.....this is probably a month away so we'll see. In the meantime I'm heading to ATL in a couple of weeks for a convention and I know three more cuties up there. Dated a friend of these three awhile back so the chances for action with any of them is low, but I bet they have friends!

Time to go hit 'em up on facebook.....
 

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Hotlanta! Nice. I feel you on going with the flow. The mastering of one's emotions pertaining with women and being able to discern what's going to be a hassle and what's going to be enjoyable, is crucial in maintaining a thriving sex life, work life, social life, the whole shootin' match.
 

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More generally, I think this is an issue of self-esteem. Attention seekers define their worth based on the perceived reactions of others (e.g. People find me attractive, therefore I am valuable.). The esteem of others becomes a necessary food supply to maintain constitution of identity. The more valuable you appear, the more appetizing a meal you'll make.

I think this is something we all do to varying degrees.
 
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