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Don Juan
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Say, a woman I am interested in comes to me for advice on something I am competent in. Do I dodge it, to avoid being Captain Save-A-Hoe?
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Could be different things. Career advice - should she take this course or that. Real estate advice - is it a good idea to look for a house in this market.What’s the subject matter?
Rule number one. Never ever solve a problem for a woman. She is fully capable.Could be different things. Career advice - should she take this course or that. Real estate advice - is it a good idea to look for a house in this market.
Not that I am truly an expert on any of that, but probably know more than she, and she perceives me to be competent.
Fair enough.Rule number one. Never ever solve a problem for a woman....
The real question is why is she complaining to YOU?Fair enough.
So a follow up question - a woman who I am interested in reaches out complaining about something that put her in a bad mood. Am I correct to assume that your advice will be similar to above, i.e. do not console her or try to make her feel better? If so, how should I respond?
Yep, completely disengage from a woman you are interested in. Nothing says "quality partner" MORE than a man who dismisses you when you are upset.The real question is why is she complaining to YOU?
Same thing. Don’t advise. Tell her this...
“If that is a problem...you need some real problems.” with a wry smile. Teasingly.
She will get the point. She has girlfriends for that. It’s to see what kind of man you are.
He said he is interested in her. He definitely doesnt want to get trapped into being her white knight, but dismissing someone, like you suggested, doesn't draw people closer to you, it pushes them away UNLESS they are low quality/used to dysfunctional relationships. Then your suggestion is grand. But why would anyone want to draw in someone, bring them closer, who lives dysfunctionally in relationships?I would advise against this sazc idea. unless you are in a relationship or heading that way. But still, whining and complaining will never solve anything. She is there for your stability not for you to be a bland teddy bear.
But do as you please. It’s best to take your lumps sometimes. An attentive little man who listens to complaints will need to somehow get his man card back.
Exactly"
Unless she had the hots for Bob since day 1.
Man you been reading too much PUADepends on if you use the opportunity to DHV the whole time she is venting. Women tend to get jealous even of their beta orbiters .
If you are truly a man you are in charge of your own faculties. You should be able to "just listen" easily.There are a lot of physiological things that take place when another gives you a problem. Male or female.
This is science not opinion.
Work is one thing. A boss gives you problems to solve and you get paid for it. That’s called an exchange. This is what work is.
So when as a human being, you are looking at another’s problem. This causes, at a very deep level, a man’s computation machine to start working. Even though a woman says “just listen”. It’s a pretty diabolical thing to say.
If we are talking about the back door being fixed then it’s a normal issue.
Ask any of the more experienced men here. Any of them. No matter how many problems you solve, or try to solve, another will imiidiately pop right up to take its place. These are circular. It’s called her problems factory.
Human beings are set up to pose and solve problems dealing with survival. Men have a much greater ability to extrapolate solutions.
So let’s say you have this woman who you are connected to in some way. So she then creates this problem in her factory that seemingly has no solution. Wheather you are to just listen or solve is irrelevant. Your mind, as a man does not make that distinction.
It is extremely diabolical to hand a man some arbitrary problem based on her emotional entanglements. Part of his mind will immediately start calculating.
Let’s say you have 100 units of mental attention. The problem she just handed you now takes up 35 of them. That leaves you 65 to operate on. Depending upon how negative it is, it can get horrific for a man. If she is gaslighting you it can jump to all 100 attention units are now used up and anger jumps in.
Her problems BELONG TO HER. She does NOT have your best interest in mind. Not in the least.
Yesterday on another thread I talked about things that women do that dibilitate a man. This is one of them. Women are completely cognizant of the phenomena of giving a man a problem. It is second nature.
If in any way, you latch onto this problem(even by just listening) you are in jeopardy. If you try to solve it she subconscious knows you won’t stay on any path you choose for yourself. She knows you are a noodle.
As a man in the world and a high end engineering manager I had to learn to listen to a problem and then right after completely drop it into what I call my “well of nothing”. Whatever goes down that well never comes back.
“Just listen”, coming from a woman is another death nail and she knows she’s giving you her problem. She doesn’t even want a solution because there is no solution. It doesn’t exist.
It is rather sinister. A masculine man will nod and drop it down his well of nothing right after. You will need this skill. But I wrote this so you know what happens to the mind of a man when he is handed a female problem from her problems factory. It is a destructive act and she wouldn’t even dare do this to a prized lover. Completely destructive in every way.
Listen to sazc at your own peril. Youve been fully warned.
lol DHV scared the shyt out of me back to when I used to think looks didn't matter lol.Ive never read a single PUA article lol
Could you please elaborate on that piece? What exactly does it mean and how does it manifest? What does a rock steady frame look like?They know I am a strong male with a rock steady frame.
A rock steady frame would not write that in the first person. He would write it in the third person.Could you please elaborate on that piece? What exactly does it mean and how does it manifest? What does a rock steady frame look like?