Women are usually boring how do we deal with that?

[Arewedoomed]

Most people are pretty boring they like bread and circuses and that is often it. Basic women like various forms of consumption (food, wine, chocolate, restaurants, amusement, etc.), complaining, and attention seeking. How do you mentally connect with such people? Eventually you could probably find something interesting about them but usually there isn't enough time so the conversations end and they move on. How do you get them to talk?

How do very feminine women (oftentimes hot women) mentally connect with very masculine men? What do they have in common? If you can't connect with someone you cannot have a relationship.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Women don't need to be interesting they are the sex that is pursued all they need to do is dress well , stay slim and know how to use a bit of makeup

Its your job to be interesting to her you can usually hook women quite quickly just by paying attention and offering your own perspective on a topic that she's interested in

I was on a date with my girlfriend last night we were sat across from another couple that were on 2nd or 3rd date the male was just banging on about how important he is at work and a load of other boring crap

My GF and I were laughing at how socially unaware this guy was

 

[BaronOfHair]

The onus is on you, as a man, to address the problem, once your lady gets unentertaining. This often requires that you exercise an iota of ingenuity, and even take inspiration from men who lived prior https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Hansen

A forest, rifle, and an assortment of finely crafted hunting knives are often all that's required, in order to remedy such a dilemma

 

[ValiantMale]

Women are only boring to boring men. Whenever I date a woman, I usually just take her to stuff that I feel is fun, and bring the fun out of them. The woman is just a byproduct of me having fun doign whatever it is-- and she's accompanying me. Sometimes I'll insist on going with their plans -- such as girlfriends showing me some event they want to go to, or a concert, or some activity and me being like yeah we can do that..

As far as mentally connect, it can be hard to with some chicks.. You kind of just have to be playful rather than "mentally connect".. or find something you guys share in common to connecto n. For some of the girls I date who are younger itll just be music, pop culture stuff, food places/drinks but sometimes it can be sneakers, books, fashion, movies, etc.

It can really help to discover things together--ie: go see a new movie together, go to a concert together of somene you like to listen to, then someone she likes to listen to etc.

 

[Arewedoomed]

So most of you are saying it is true they are often just bimbos to be pursued and there isn't much I can do about it haha. I am not boring I have all kinds of interesting hobbies, I read, and have traveled a bit. I'd say maybe 1/5 of women are interesting but they are out of my league and the rest are just these people that need to be entertained until they open up...

I was hoping for some magic lines that get them to talk more.

 

[Arewedoomed]

The onus is on you, as a man, to address the problem, once your lady gets unentertaining. This often requires that you exercise an iota of ingenuity, and even take inspiration from men who lived prior https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Hansen

A forest, rifle, and an assortment of finely crafted hunting knives are often all that's required, in order to remedy such a dilemma

Why would I want to be a murderer? What is the meaning of this link?

 

[Gamisch]

Every woman has a couple of personalities in her bag. It's on you as a man to distinguish what it is that she wants from you.

Now that I think about it; I haven't been on one date yet with an highly interested woman who didn't gave it her all. On the other hand: if a woman acts distant ..she probably isn't all that in to you. Although this isn't always the case as she might as well be sexually interested and yet act distant...

I geuss the confusing part for us men is, IF we wanna feck a "woman of lesser quality " we still gonna try to be charming and witty . Hence the term" practice girl/ woman". A woman = a woman so we can still learn tons of shyte even from a " former hottie". Women on the other hand don't necessarily have to go through this kinda practice.

As you ( rightfully) pointed out, a woman can be distant and get a away with it. Men too by the way, especially with women that apply this to men because they might recognise distant behaviour as low interest ,and that might make a man more of a challenge( a badboy trait).

Yet EVERY woman has " bubbly personality " in her bag ready to unleash on the men she REALLY wants. Watch silent bimbo turn into a talkative girl once she's put in front of a tpp tier guy.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Why would I want to be a murderer?

They rack up chicks faster than Bonnie Blue accumulates irreparable rectal trauma

 

[Mike32ct]

Some people are “dry,” but they aren’t necessarily “boring” if you “click” with them.

Maybe their “chill” nature puts others at ease, and that compensates.

 

[zekko]

I don't find women boring, I find them stimulating. They can also be comforting, like a soft cushion at the end of the work day.

 

[DJ Novice]

Outside of the bedroom and child raising activities I have found 99% of women to just be a drain on my time, energy and finances.

It’s the price you pay for p*ssy and it’s something you need to come to terms with. Derive your happiness and mental stimulation from things other than women. Learn to enjoy your own company and tolerate (and if possible minimise) the non-bedroom time spent with women.

 

[plumber]

generally what they want to talk about is people or anything that is emotional. you just have to not pick something that leads to emotional melt. avoid anything logical or figure it out type of topics. anything that is about status and gossip is interesting.

politics, no.
religion, no as it can lead away from your goals.
entertainment, yes
work, only if she wants to tell hers, yours is just a mention and no complaining about it.
philosophy, maybe....
hobbies, YES
social circles, yes
people, yes
life, just listen...d
fun stuff, yes
not fun stuff, no


if she brings a topic, filter based on the above.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Move to Italy OP, they're not boring there. They don't put out, but they're not boring. @jhonny9546

 

[Clockwerk50]

So most of you are saying it is true they are often just bimbos to be pursued and there isn't much I can do about it haha. I am not boring I have all kinds of interesting hobbies, I read, and have traveled a bit. I'd say maybe 1/5 of women are interesting but they are out of my league and the rest are just these people that need to be entertained until they open up...

I was hoping for some magic lines that get them to talk more.

There are no magic lines. The main premise is that the woman desires you so much that she wants to qualify herself to you, hoping you'll admire her the same way she admires you.

So most of you are saying it is true they are often just bimbos to be pursued and there isn't much I can do about it haha. I am not boring I have all kinds of interesting hobbies, I read, and have traveled a bit. I'd say maybe 1/5 of women are interesting but they are out of my league and the rest are just these people that need to be entertained until they open up...

I was hoping for some magic lines that get them to talk more.

There are no magic lines. The main premise is that the woman desires you so much that she wants to qualify herself to you, hoping you'll admire her the same way she admires you.

I feel like "how to talk to a woman" is a different discussion entirely, since there are different stages in seduction and different approaches depending on the context. However, this thread seems all over the place - asking how to get women to talk more, how to connect with them, how to turn mundane topics into interesting conversations, and so on.

That said, here are two things you can use to open anyone up, not just women:

1. In psychotherapy, practitioners often use brief, monosyllabic responses to create space and draw people out. It helps the other person relax, feel heard, and fill in the silence themselves. Used skillfully, even banal conversation can be a brilliant tactic, because it lowers defenses and gives the other person permission to reveal more of themselves.
   
   
2. Humans, like nature, hate a vacuum. Emotional distance and silence often make people instinctively try to fill the empty space with their own words and energy. When you step back and don’t dominate the conversation, it encourages others to open up more naturally, as they feel invited to fill the space and engage.

 

[The Duke]

Music & Astrology typically get most women talking. Dating stories are also fun to share. Human interest topics are a good one.

I don't look for commonalities in the sense of similar hobbies, interests, etc to connect thru. You connect with a person by what you learn about them when they start to open up with who they are, what they are passionate about, and what they believe in. This just happens to come out when people start sharing their hobbies and interests with you.

I've never experienced a woman that doesn't want to talk. You might ask yourself why this is happening. I'd bet it's because she is nervous and shy, or you are dominating the conversation, or you aren't what she thought you were.

Being a good listener is a start. Your job is to facilitate the interaction. Get her talking, figure out what makes her tick, then explore those avenues together with you guiding the conversation. People feel connected when they can express themselves to you.

At some point if she says " I feel like I told you everything about myself and I talked so much, tell me about you"... you have done a good job.

 

[SW15]

I don't look for commonalities in the sense of similar hobbies, interests, etc to connect thru.

It's difficult to connect through hobbies and interests with a woman.

Recently, I shared a story about one of my male friends and his passion for playing golf.

He found his LTR/marriage with a woman whose biggest passion in life is playing golf. There is nothing interesting about this woman other than the fact that she plays golf. She has zero charisma, she has a mediocre face, she is highly introverted, and borderline socially awkward.

I play tennis. I have found some dates with tennis playing women but not a long term relationship through tennis. I also swim laps. It's less of a hobby than tennis. I have found women who swim laps but I didn't meet them at the pool where I swim.

I go to the gym and date women who also go to the gym (usually not the same gym as my gym). The gym is a basic activity so I don't think that means much.

You connect with a person by what you learn about them when they start to open up with who they are, what they are passionate about, and what they believe in. This just happens to come out when people start sharing their hobbies and interests with you.

True

As far as mentally connect, it can be hard to with some chicks..

It can happen. I went on one date where I had great difficulty connecting with the woman. All she could talk about was her owned house (she seemed proud she bought it as a single woman) and her dog.

Being a good listener is a start. Your job is to facilitate the interaction. Get her talking, figure out what makes her tick, then explore those avenues together with you guiding the conversation. People feel connected when they can express themselves to you.

At some point if she says " I feel like I told you everything about myself and I talked so much, tell me about you"... you have done a good job.

Agree. I try to do this.

 

[Smok1nAce]

If women where interesting we all still be living in caves hunting our food with spears.

There’s a reason most modern men are single.

 

[Solomon]

Outside of the bedroom and child raising activities I have found 99% of women to just be a drain on my time, energy and finances.

It’s the price you pay for p*ssy and it’s something you need to come to terms with. Derive your happiness and mental stimulation from things other than women. Learn to enjoy your own company and tolerate (and if possible minimise) the non-bedroom time spent with women.

I think if you and a woman have hobbies in common i.e. gong to the gym, traveling, same type of movie taste, it can make the relationship dynamic more interesting.

My experience is similar to yours(especially if I'm spinningg plates or casually dating) 90% of my conversations with women is superficial at best. Now there are 10% of women who actually are stimulating to talk to, the best date I ever went on was with a cute girl who was going to the top university in my city this was about a decade ago for stem. Wicket smart, and cute too, to bad she had a bush and we didn't make it past the 2nd hook up.

I have had women complain in the past that I don't listen to them and that's because I get bored of frivolous conversations really quickly nor do I care about the reality televison, the worst is a woman who is 40 years of age but still trying to live the club Bimbo lifestyle....yuck

 

[Vanderdonck]

Most people are pretty boring they like bread and circuses and that is often it. Basic women like various forms of consumption (food, wine, chocolate, restaurants, amusement, etc.), complaining, and attention seeking. How do you mentally connect with such people? Eventually you could probably find something interesting about them but usually there isn't enough time so the conversations end and they move on. How do you get them to talk?

How do very feminine women (oftentimes hot women) mentally connect with very masculine men? What do they have in common? If you can't connect with someone you cannot have a relationship.

Boring: "Where are you from?"

Gets her talking: "Tell me, what made you move to Metropolis."

Boring: "What's it like working in advertising?"

Gets her talking: "Your job sounds really exciting, tell me what you love about it." Or, "what's your favorite commercial or campaign lately?"

Also google rapport building questions, how to build charisma, etc. You ask people open ended questions that aren't so much about nuts and bolts but about dreams, fears, nostalgia, embarrassing moments, etc.

 

[DJ Novice]

To be brutally honest once I’ve slept with a woman and the novelty wears off (usually after a few months) I just start to lose interest in them. Even if they genuinely care for me and satisfy me in the bedroom.

I just find the non-bedroom stuff associated with relationships (which can take up to 80% or more of relationship time) emotionally exhausting and boring a lot of the time.

I think there’s something about being settled in a relationship that takes away your drive.

I’m usually in the ‘adored’ category. All of my girlfriends have been the ‘adorer’ and devastated when I’ve broken up with them.