Women are so impressionable

[tryst type]

So, my very first gf from high school whom upon breaking up with me when she went off to college and made me join this site to cure my afc oneitis, texts me out of the blue today.

Let me preface a bit, it's been a good ten years since we broke up and for a good six we have been very amicable/friendly. She has moved to a different state and when she's around visiting her family we usually get together as friends and catch up.

I've lost any and all attraction for her due to her numerous rejections on my attempted advances (my afc days of trying to win her back) I've built a callus towards her and can never see her sexually again, or at least it's very hard to and she's liked knowing that, enjoys just being strictly friends.

Anyway, her best friend just recently became engaged to the guy she was dating at the same time my ex and I were together. We'd constantly double date with them.

So today, her text reads: "Hey! I just want to say how much I miss you and that I want to come home just so we can hang out. Is that weird? Maybe. Haha "

Obviously her friend's engagement has something to do with this because she's never said anything along those lines before. Usually it's something like "I'm home if I'm free we should catch up" or something very mundane and has no undertone for anything.

 

[plate's_empty]

she needs someone to talk to, an old trusty. You still have feelings for her or else you wouldn't care and wouldn't be posting here. What do you want? Do you want to bang her? Or do you want to see how things may work and possibly get into a relationship? Either way, I think you're fvcked.

Not sure what the best route is on this, but since she contacted you....I'd play it cool, be friendly but not easy, tease a little. If things start getting good, don't agree to first meeting she suggests. Turn things around and have her meet you on your terms. Take it from there.

 

[betheman]

did you ever have sex with her?

 

[Jitterbug]

Radio silence. Amicable or not, shes not worth your time anymore. Lets someone else take care of her bio clock alarm.

 

[tryst type]

did you ever have sex with her?

Yes we dated for four years.

 

[betheman]

So you were with her from age around 15 onwards?
she sees her friends getting engaged and yes she wonders what it would have been like with you but she wants to know you have those feelings for her, she is fishing to find out if she still has an emotional grip on you (she does and she probably knows it)
are you prepared to continue being her safety net? the falback guy?
in response to her text, Id reply...well no I wouldnt

 

[tryst type]

I replied with "thanks"

And she said: "fine don't feel the same way..."

I didn't respond. She currently lives in another state with a guy she's dating.

And yes we were in our teens when we dated. We were each others "first"

 

[LMFAO]

She's going on the merry go round of the c0ck carousel and lining up her next move.

 

[betheman]

I replied with "thanks"

And she said: "fine don't feel the same way..."

I didn't respond. She currently lives in another state with a guy she's dating.

And yes we were in our teens when we dated. We were each others "first"

Good work man! she will be quietly seeting though so expect either total and everlasting silence or more sarcastic, teasing texts. you have dealt a blow to her ego

 

[origin138]

I replied with "thanks"

And she said: "fine don't feel the same way..."

I didn't respond. She currently lives in another state with a guy she's dating.

And yes we were in our teens when we dated. We were each others "first"

Well played. She's lining up all of her possible resources so she can structure her life of dependency on multiple men/orbiters. You're simply a part of her little safety net from the big mean world.

What matters is if you're getting her best. You're not, so you need to go and not look back.