"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So I just got back from hanging out with a good female friend of mine (one I'm not interested in, BTW). She talked my ear off about the following situation:

Her bf isn't good in bed, so she tries to avoid sex with him and only puts out about once a month (whipped to infinity, I know). But lately, he hasn't even been trying to screw her, so she's worried he's losing interest in her physically. So they can have sex. Which she doesn't enjoy. And she thinks she's still in love with her ex-bf, who MAY have broken up with his GF, but she's not sure, and wants to know how she can discreetly find out.

Up against women like that, what hope do we have?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Que loca, no?
 

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Leporello said:
So I just got back from hanging out with a good female friend of mine (one I'm not interested in, BTW). She talked my ear off about the following situation:

Her bf isn't good in bed, so she tries to avoid sex with him and only puts out about once a month (whipped to infinity, I know). But lately, he hasn't even been trying to screw her, so she's worried he's losing interest in her physically. So they can have sex. Which she doesn't enjoy. And she thinks she's still in love with her ex-bf, who MAY have broken up with his GF, but she's not sure, and wants to know how she can discreetly find out.

Up against women like that, what hope do we have?
Why are you wasting your time with a girl who talks about her sex life with her 6'0 boyfriend? If you don't like her, ask her to set you up with some of her friends you can sleep with.
 

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donjuan11 said:
Why are you wasting your time with a girl who talks about her sex life with her 6'0 boyfriend? If you don't like her, ask her to set you up with some of her friends you can sleep with.
please read the post. Below I have quoted the post, and in the first line of it it states "Good female friend"

Leporello said:
So I just got back from hanging out with a good female friend of mine (one I'm not interested in, BTW). She talked my ear off about the following situation:

Her bf isn't good in bed, so she tries to avoid sex with him and only puts out about once a month (whipped to infinity, I know). But lately, he hasn't even been trying to screw her, so she's worried he's losing interest in her physically. So they can have sex. Which she doesn't enjoy. And she thinks she's still in love with her ex-bf, who MAY have broken up with his GF, but she's not sure, and wants to know how she can discreetly find out.

Up against women like that, what hope do we have?
Anyways, I blame the guy for this problem.

First, he chose to go out with this girl (probably a girl that I would NOT have dated).

Secondly, he should read up on the best sex techniques out there. He is doing nothing to improve himself in that area of his life.

Thirdly, he is doing something smart by not even trying for the sex because it is starting to make her wonder what the hell is happening. She is wondering at this point, whats going on he used to want me all the time, now he doesn't want anything to do with me. WTF?

Finally, seems like part of the problem also lies in communication. Looks like a relationship that is on the rocks and is about to sink very quickly.

comic_relief
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Where you're going wrong is expecting women to be rational along your lines. It's like when I'm playing with my dog. Sometimes he does things that makes absolutly no sense to ME, but then I remind myself...he's a dog! He's not suppose to do things that make sense to me. Once I gripped a hold of the though of him doing ******dly strange things to me but what's common for him, we reached an agreement. We get along fine daily after that.

It's the same with girls. They do some crazy sh*t man, bottom line. If you go into an engagement assuming they're going to do crazy and irrational things fro the get go, then a lot of the anxiety from the lunacy is taken away. You'll also appreciate the good things that they do too because expecting the worst and getting the best is the difnity of plesentry.
 

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Its why I don't take relationships so seriously....women are just there to have fun with (not take advantage of - theres a difference)...be happy in your own company.
 

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I bet the guy is seein another chick
 

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splinterkb said:
I bet the guy is seein another chick
I doubt it. She's probably the best he can do, and she's not all that attractive.
 

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ummm why are you wasting your time talking to this girl about her sex life? Is it really that interesting? But yeah girls are not rational. They just don't think the way we do. It makes no sense sometimes so there's no point in trying to figure it out.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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i cant believe you are actually wasting your time listening to all that **** from a girl that you dont even want to bang. She is making you go through all that for WHAT?
 

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Haven't you ever heard of schadenfreude? Teachable moments?
 

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Prodigy746 said:
i cant believe you are actually wasting your time listening to all that **** from a girl that you dont even want to bang. She is making you go through all that for WHAT?
she's his FRIEND dude

there's a difference between not gettign emotionally dumped on by a girl you're trying to game (which kills attraction), and listening to a female friend. you must be confused

and moral of the story... learn how to please your woman, especially if you want to keep her
 

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Sometimes people just don't find someone sexually exciting even though they genuinely like the person. I've been in tons of situations where I really thought a woman was great but after a few months the sex was just plain boring to the point where it felt like a chore and annoyed me to even be bothered with it. Why would wanting a fuffiling sex life make someone crazy?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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everywomanshero said:
Sometimes people just don't find someone sexually exciting even though they genuinely like the person. I've been in tons of situations where I really thought a woman was great but after a few months the sex was just plain boring to the point where it felt like a chore and annoyed me to even be bothered with it. Why would wanting a fuffiling sex life make someone crazy?
if I understand what you're saying, it's not that she's crazy for wanting a good sex life, it strikes me as crazy that she's worried about her bf not begging unsatisfying sex from her.
 

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I find it amusing how so many people here are bashing you for listening to your friend's story. Anyway, if you used f'ed up logic you can see where her thought process is, but you're right, it's pretty dumb. When he stopped trying to have sex with her she lost the upper hand (see: Seinfeld episode), so she tries to get it back by sleeping with him even though she doesn't like it.

I see wedding bells in the future, oh yeah.
 

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She enjoys telling him about her sex life because she enjoys the ego trip she has in telling a male friend that she gets laid, knowing he doesn't and that he wants to fcvk her. The solution is to tell her about sex you've been having; use her as a tampon instead.

MM
 

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Mad Manic said:
She enjoys telling him about her sex life because she enjoys the ego trip she has in telling a male friend that she gets laid, knowing he doesn't and that he wants to fcvk her. The solution is to tell her about sex you've been having; use her as a tampon instead.

MM
I get laid more than she does, thanks (though that's not hard when she's only giving it once a month). She's actually incredibly prudish.
 
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I talk about sex with good female friends, just like I'd talk about anything else. Sometimes they tell me some crazy story and sometimes I tell them something really wild that happened. Why would there need to be any elaborate plot behind any of this. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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