It's controversial but this is the closest thing I've seen that explains itTeach sir. Teach. Explain how your wife went against society to be a strong supportive wife?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It's controversial but this is the closest thing I've seen that explains itTeach sir. Teach. Explain how your wife went against society to be a strong supportive wife?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Basically be a little more pf a dyck and less predictable. Step back occasionally to make her seek your validation.It's controversial but this is the closest thing I've seen that explains it
Valid point. Women are the beauty of the world. IMO they have been damaged far more than men in this debacle we call modern society.I agree. My ex was my muse. I started a 6-7 figure business right when I met her because of meeting her. I was a bartender before. The problem with having them as a muse, is that when they leave, so does most of your motivation. Even if you didn’t make her the center of your life (I certainly didnt, I did the opposite actually). This is currently my situation after 6 years together. So... try to find another muse lol
and this:The problem with having them as a muse, is that when they leave, so does most of your motivation.
This is our Achilles heel. This is some seriously embedded feminine imperative stuff. This is what Vishen Lakhiani call's a "Brule", a bull$hit rule or programmed way of thinking. It's not natural.Im EXTREMELY productive when I have a girlfriend, it gives a sense of focus and achievement.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
It wasn’t on purpose. She came. I re-evaluated my life, and leveled up consistently for 6 years until she left. It was instinctual. Not social conditioning, or anything of the sort. Never even felt inspired by a woman before her. I’d get bored of them all after a few months. Pretty weird feeling. Hard to explain.and this:
This is our Achilles heel. This is some seriously embedded feminine imperative stuff. This is what Vishen Lakhiani call's a "Brule", a bull$hit rule or programmed way of thinking. It's not natural.
Leaders do not think..."I need a woman behind me to feel whole or a girlfriend to elevate my chemicals so I feel motivated to accomplish my goals.". This is programming from birth and is a wholly feminine trait. A woman is not an accomplishment. She is an addition to your overall plan. So if there are no women available do you just lay down and die or fail to accomplish things? Men are high production machines. This was embedded in our social structure since the beginning of the rise of civilization.
The church found that men worked harder if they knew they had a woman. At least that's what we have been told is history. Let me postulate this...man was evolving and surviving gloriously, long before the church. If fact nearly 100% of his development was before the church. Yet now, they will work harder if they have a woman? Work harder for who?
These things are embedded very deep. Removing them is a lot of work and doesn't happen overnight. These things are social constructs. They actually hold you down. Believe me, I know how it feels when I've had what I believed to be a good woman. Pretty powerful. But for most men, they leave, and he sinks into something dark and paralyzing. So right on cue he struggles to find that place again with another woman. That's how powerful social programming is. IN other words...you are nothing but a lump of clay unless you have a full time woman.
Firstly you have too much garbage still inside to shake off that universe. It is true that men and women compliment each other for optimum survival. Are you seeing optimum survival out there? Really? How faulty is your thinking? Do we just accept what we feel, like a woman or do we undo those programmed neural pathways that we formed early on?
It has been proven soundly that men who have accomplished something worthy in their own eyes...the women come. Yet we are programmed to reverse this and "feel" we need the woman first? Where did you get this idea? Just think about it. I'm in no position to tell a man how to live his life. Do you think you may be a production slave for interests that are not yours?
Oh, I get it. Truly. But I'm going to let my post ride on out. From my perspective, my perspective only, that neural pathway exists. It automates the reward/punishment circuit. Get an amazing woman? Reward. Dont have an amazing woman? Punishment.It wasn’t on purpose. She came. I re-evaluated my life, and leveled up consistently for 6 years until she left. It was instinctual. Not social conditioning, or anything of the sort. Never even felt inspired by a woman before her. I’d get bored of them all after a few months. Pretty weird feeling. Hard to explain.
Feels good to be treated like a man by a feminine woman.I see the OPs point. It’s a rare and special feeling when you find a genuine feminine woman to interact with. I recently met such a woman at work who I feel the masculine feminine balance with. But it’s true there aren’t many women in the West who you can still do this with anymore. Too many western women want to be men and that is what has screwed everything up. They want to dominate and make you submit. This particular woman is married, plus I have a GF for right now anyway. So while I flirt in a non sexual way with the chick at work, and she flurts back, i won’t be the first to make any serious moves. Now if for some reason she would make a move on me I would do a hard-core reassessment of the entire situation. I really do dig this chick and it’s because of the masculine feminine vibe that we have with each other. She’s not quite as hot as my girlfriend but she is oh so much more fun to be around.
Until it stops lmaoFeels good to be treated like a man by a feminine woman.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Throw her azz out like trash they do usUntil it stops lmao
When it stops, IS when they throw us out. In my case at least.Throw her azz out like trash they do us
Have womenWhen it stops, IS when they throw us out. In my case at least.
Yes.Feels good to be treated like a man by a feminine woman.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Even then they STILL fvcking leave. My brother always told me. “U must cheat”Yes.
And all you need as a man is to be masculine.
But takes a whole village of men to mentor a youngling into a masculine man.
The process is years in the making.
A complete shift of mindset that goes against the very fabric of society you're grown up in.
It will be extremely hard as men from childhood have been programmed by their own mother's, teachers, older sisters, female friends etc — on how to be manly.
How is it that females knows what's takes to be a man when they're never even been one for even a nano second?
They are merely teaching (brainwashing) men how they wish to be treated.
I am not one to usually complain about this kind of society-wide stuff so give me a moment.Yes.
And all you need as a man is to be masculine.
But takes a whole village of men to mentor a youngling into a masculine man.
The process is years in the making.
A complete shift of mindset that goes against the very fabric of society you're grown up in.
It will be extremely hard as men from childhood have been programmed by their own mother's, teachers, older sisters, female friends etc — on how to be manly.
How is it that females knows what's takes to be a man when they're never even been one for even a nano second?
They are merely teaching (brainwashing) men how they wish to be treated.
That is one hell of a good point.How is it that females knows what's takes to be a man when they're never even been one for even a nano second?
Wow, how'd you pull that off?Bob Dylan- it takes a woman like you, to get through to the man in me
But the opposite is also true. When I met my wife she made it clear she would never be my housewife. And here we are years later, she is my housewife. Cooking new and interesting foods and sexy underwear is all she cares about. Why? Because I am her man. She has naturally fallen into that role. It's been amazing to watch
Feminism can be REVERSED