"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Women annoy me sometimes (learn how)

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Alright so here is the situation:

I'm a 24 yr old who works part time at a big name bookstore(pretty much nights and weekends) with the intentions of getting some extra dough and also meeting some chicks. Because its only part time and not my real job I'm not attached to it. Well a few weeks ago I had a little party and ended up hooking up with somebody from the store. She's cute, HB8 I would say only problem is is that all these other girls that work at the store are popping up saying they have a crush on me ( I know its like high school).

Where this leads is that I have gone out with this girl two times since then and I'm not getting any kinds of signals good or bad. I'm assuming she is a little apprehensive because the other girls from the store are either not talking to her or giving her a hard time(which she brought up to me). So basically I'm not stressing about this because I'm not committed to anybody so I have a couple of prospects on the leash.

Just wanted opinions on a few courses of action that I could take:
A) Just kind of sit back, play it and keep doing what I've been doing
B) Straight up find out if this is going to lead anywhere
C) Just forget about it completely and just bring myself into the friendzone...AFC way out (not going to happen)

Also there is a party that she told me about this weekend because I asked her to do something with me. Based on your response should I tell her to come to my place and we'll drive over there together?

Let me know what's good gentlemen

Major_Major
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If that's really an issue, than you should leverage your popularity in the store to show everyone what a cool girl this HB8 is. Basically, if you're truly popular in the store, then you can still be a "good guy" and promote this girl friend of yours.
 

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dynamicallyidle said:
If that's really an issue, than you should leverage your popularity in the store to show everyone what a cool girl this HB8 is. Basically, if you're truly popular in the store, then you can still be a "good guy" and promote this girl friend of yours.
I like that dynamic, easier said then done but I like it. Women are caddy that's for sure.
 

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I'm going to assume that you like this girl... so I would say you go with option d) Show yourself to be the outstanding bf material that you are.

One of two things is going to happen...
1. She will be chuffed as fvck and you now have yourself a top girl; or
2. It doesn't work out and she tells all the other girls what a great catch you are.

Yeah, get her to come over to your place, if all goes well, she'll be too drunk to drive home afterwards and will have to stay with you for the night.
 

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If you are interested in HB8, then see where it goes. Sounds like she is playing hard to get. Does hooking up = making out? So no sex yet, right?

In my experience, the only effect all these girls at the store wanting to get with you will have on HB8 is this: it makes her want you more. In no way is this a negative.

You are in excellent position here. Decide your course of action, and see it to its conclusion!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Crem - Agreed on the party approach, she's got friends that are going to be in the way but I got my roommate along that has my back

Aaron - That's what I needed to hear, makes perfect sense to me. Hooking up in this case = everything but sex (alcohol involved though).

I think my course of action will be to keep doing what I'm doing. Which is mainly not to stress about it and play it chill. Didn't mention that I was supposed to go out with her last night but she got stuck in the city and stopped by the pad for about an hour(nothing happened though). We'll see what happens tomorrow at said party.
 

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Major,

Show her that she's going to get great time, she will enjoy being with you, you're a THE CATCH.

:)
 

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That's the mentality to be thinking, nvictor.

I love being tested by women too. A couple days ago same girl was supposed to do something with me but she had to delay. Her reason was that she had to go to her ex's photo exhibition, I played it cool and said basically do what you got to do. She called me later and we hung out, this chick game is serious its really interesting when you get over the hurdle of oneitis and all that good stuff.
 

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I love it, its real interesting. I'll definately keep everybody informed with how the weekend is going. I also have lots of football to watch as well, so busy this weekend.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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