"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Women annoy me sometimes (learn how)

Major_Major

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Alright so here is the situation:

I'm a 24 yr old who works part time at a big name bookstore(pretty much nights and weekends) with the intentions of getting some extra dough and also meeting some chicks. Because its only part time and not my real job I'm not attached to it. Well a few weeks ago I had a little party and ended up hooking up with somebody from the store. She's cute, HB8 I would say only problem is is that all these other girls that work at the store are popping up saying they have a crush on me ( I know its like high school).

Where this leads is that I have gone out with this girl two times since then and I'm not getting any kinds of signals good or bad. I'm assuming she is a little apprehensive because the other girls from the store are either not talking to her or giving her a hard time(which she brought up to me). So basically I'm not stressing about this because I'm not committed to anybody so I have a couple of prospects on the leash.

Just wanted opinions on a few courses of action that I could take:
A) Just kind of sit back, play it and keep doing what I've been doing
B) Straight up find out if this is going to lead anywhere
C) Just forget about it completely and just bring myself into the friendzone...AFC way out (not going to happen)

Also there is a party that she told me about this weekend because I asked her to do something with me. Based on your response should I tell her to come to my place and we'll drive over there together?

Let me know what's good gentlemen

Major_Major
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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dynamicallyidle

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If that's really an issue, than you should leverage your popularity in the store to show everyone what a cool girl this HB8 is. Basically, if you're truly popular in the store, then you can still be a "good guy" and promote this girl friend of yours.
 

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dynamicallyidle said:
If that's really an issue, than you should leverage your popularity in the store to show everyone what a cool girl this HB8 is. Basically, if you're truly popular in the store, then you can still be a "good guy" and promote this girl friend of yours.
I like that dynamic, easier said then done but I like it. Women are caddy that's for sure.
 

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I'm going to assume that you like this girl... so I would say you go with option d) Show yourself to be the outstanding bf material that you are.

One of two things is going to happen...
1. She will be chuffed as fvck and you now have yourself a top girl; or
2. It doesn't work out and she tells all the other girls what a great catch you are.

Yeah, get her to come over to your place, if all goes well, she'll be too drunk to drive home afterwards and will have to stay with you for the night.
 

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If you are interested in HB8, then see where it goes. Sounds like she is playing hard to get. Does hooking up = making out? So no sex yet, right?

In my experience, the only effect all these girls at the store wanting to get with you will have on HB8 is this: it makes her want you more. In no way is this a negative.

You are in excellent position here. Decide your course of action, and see it to its conclusion!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Major_Major

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Crem - Agreed on the party approach, she's got friends that are going to be in the way but I got my roommate along that has my back

Aaron - That's what I needed to hear, makes perfect sense to me. Hooking up in this case = everything but sex (alcohol involved though).

I think my course of action will be to keep doing what I'm doing. Which is mainly not to stress about it and play it chill. Didn't mention that I was supposed to go out with her last night but she got stuck in the city and stopped by the pad for about an hour(nothing happened though). We'll see what happens tomorrow at said party.
 

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Major,

Show her that she's going to get great time, she will enjoy being with you, you're a THE CATCH.

:)
 

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That's the mentality to be thinking, nvictor.

I love being tested by women too. A couple days ago same girl was supposed to do something with me but she had to delay. Her reason was that she had to go to her ex's photo exhibition, I played it cool and said basically do what you got to do. She called me later and we hung out, this chick game is serious its really interesting when you get over the hurdle of oneitis and all that good stuff.
 

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I love it, its real interesting. I'll definately keep everybody informed with how the weekend is going. I also have lots of football to watch as well, so busy this weekend.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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