"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Women’s attraction to status and fame is more real than many men realize, but it's foolish for men to focus on that.

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I’ve known this guy for 10 years. Over the last 7, he went from being an ordinary person (normal job, normal life), to a public figure, gaining access to exclusive experiences, TV shows and social circles.
He isn’t handsome, breautiful, neither rich (atm), yet very pretty women are clearly attracted to him since the change.
The main difference? His status.
(From what I know He is doing good by keeping his 20+ years LTR with a good woman)

A man might be handsome but live an ordinary life.
Another might be less attractive but offer excitement, connections and access to a world she wouldn't otherwise experience.
Are you guys with me if I say that even healthy women in healthy, stable relationships can feel they've settled when faced or just IRL met with a man of higher status?

I had the chance to look two couples interacting, and they've met first time.
(I was observing this from my table, with my old gf at that time)

The woman from the first couple greets the man from the second couple, and then, after also greeting the other woman, she steps slightly aside. In exactly five seconds, she fixes her gaze on the man from the second couple while he is busy talking to her own bf.
She looks at him in completely, from head to toe, then lingers on his arms, his shoulders, and his face.
Remaining perfectly still, she then turn her face to her BF..looking at him for two seconds...
And then, I will never forget that scene, nor the expression on her face, She stays frozen for ten seconds, her head still facing forward, but her eyes cast downward and to the left and a faint, subtle pout on her lips...
The expression was the same when you know you want pizza, but you’re served nachos instead.
Yet, your stomach is hungry... so what do you do? You eat..

If all we say is that women live off their emotions, when she come to know that man, what would you think she'll feel? You can't do anything about it. And, they won't admit, but it's not the damaged ones. Even that healthy woman would feel resentment or FOMO to be in a LTR with a lower status/fame man.
(Curious about what women here can say about that.)

Lastly, as men, we should take those examples and learn from them.
I believe successful men MUST focus on building a life they genuinely love. Doing what they really like. Fame and status are byproduct.
(The case for my friend, He really love being a comedian).
You can be with status, and famous, But if you lack the vitality that comes from what you do, life senses that it isn’t genuine.

To attain fame and status in life, a man must completely push those things into the background and focus exclusively on doing what makes him feel most alive, and doing it as well as he possibly can.
It is a counterintuitive path. It’s just like making money: you shouldn’t focus on making money itself; instead, you should focus on generating value, and the money will follow. The same applies to status and fame.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Respond to your own damn threads before starting new ones.

What's the point of reacting if the OP himself let's it die immediately?
 

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@jhonny9546 "You can't do anything about it"

You can avoid being similar Guy 2 in this visual example https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/top-tier-guys.286804/page-2#post-3201578

Such men are referred to as "Golden Retrievers" informally. Thus, they're never as desirable as men such as Guy 1, who are widely seen as "Wolves"
I love the example, I know about that serie.
I cannot understand if what you're saying might fit my post on the "anecdote" or any other part.
Was that intentional?

Btw,
I'm neither Padalecki or Ventimiglia.
I am a mix of both guys.
What about you?
 

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I love the example, I know about that serie.
I cannot understand if what you're saying might fit my post on the "anecdote" or any other part. Was that intentional
I was being "intentional", by providing a visual example of a man who's viewed as a sexy and captivating Vs One who's viewed as "nice" and "safe"

"Btw,
I'm neither Padalecki or Ventimiglia"

Refresh my memory, J... Are you of Northern or Southern Italian ancestry?

"I am a mix of both guys"

Yeah, being that those two characters are fictional, we all possess elements of both men


"What about you?"

I'm an amalgam of both The Eggman and The Walrus
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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