Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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bigjohnson said:
The one about the towels is gold. Also, is there a correct way to put the paper on the TP dispenser, and why does it matter?

If I leave the toilet seat in a state ready for your next use, will you do the same for me? Why or why not?
toliet paper goes with the end of the paper facing the toliet but where you grab from underneath to make it easier to unroll when you tug on it.
in a house like mine with kids, please keep the seat down or someone might drop something in it.
in a single womans house, put the seat down guys.
in a single guys house, raise the seat back up girls.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i just wash my ass in the sink.
 

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penkitten said:
tin a house like mine with kids, please keep the seat down or someone might drop something in it..
:yes:

In my house it is both seats down so the dog doesn't drink out of it.

If you have ever been 8 months pregnant and gone into the bathroom in the middle of the night and fallen into the toilet because the seat is not down, gotten stuck with baby wedged between you, cold water and cold porcelain and had to hollar to wake your man to help you get unstuck - well.. now you know why...
 

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Same here, the correct configuration for storing a toilet when not in use is both down. Not lid up, seat down. Ever. I also shut the cupboard doors when I'm done and put the lids back on containers.

It is, if you hadn't guessed, an ongoing conundrum in my life.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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LovelyLady said:
:crackup: Funny...

I am saying I had a man I had a "neutral" read on initailly, that became a significant boyfriend for me later - because he was able to hold my attention with the way his mind worked, his demeanor, his confidence - an inexplicable something that captured me that went beyond his looks and made him incredibly attractive to me/want him carnally (LOL I love that word). I had to have him. It was beyond lust.
Awsome, that gives hope to alot of guys.

But can you go into a little more detail as to how this guy achieved success with you. Maybe some of the things he said, or the way he said. The more details the better, would really be helpful. thanks
 

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I am saying I had a man I had a "neutral" read on initailly..
"Neutral" is about the same thing as saying you were attracted enough physically to him. He at elast passed the physical attraction test and then amplified attraction with his personality. That's different from a girl being less than "neutral" and creating attraction that wasn't there.
 

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that's why is you're at least decent looking and can function socially, many experts advise to act on the attraction aaumption.
Assyume the attraction. Act on it. Let her reject you if she doesn't want you..
Don't reject yourself first.
Escalate, and act according to plan, which is Assume the attraction.
 

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ketostix said:
"Neutral" is about the same thing as saying you were attracted enough physically to him. He at elast passed the physical attraction test and then amplified attraction with his personality. That's different from a girl being less than "neutral" and creating attraction that wasn't there.
Good point. That's why we need more details from her. I want to hear about a guy who is considerable less attractive than his target, who still closes the deal.

And further, we dont know the HB rating of the origional poster. If we could see a picture of her and him, then we would have a better idea of this guys accomplishment.
 

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Great Questions!

1. What is the correct answer to "Does this make me look fat?"
"You look amazing! Although, I do think the blue color on your other dress makes your eyes really stand out."

2. What's the deal with women's attraction to Hugh Grant?
The British accent and crooked smile. Honestly I think that's about where it stops. Some girls may like the man-***** vibe he's got going on though.

3. Does it really matter how we fold the towels?
Lol, I was in a relationship with a guy who folded clothes better than I did (blame it on the air force), and he would go back and refold them when I was done. It drove me nuts, so I say as long as they're neat it works. Chances are if you're arguing over towels there's really a bigger issue...

4. When do women fart?
When they can't hold it in any longer.

5. Why do you say that size doesn't matter?
Because it's about a lot more than how many inches you've got.

6. What do women want, really?
To feel needed, important, special, and unique. More than a number.

7. What's the screenname of the guy you are dating who told you about this site, or were you spying into his browser's history list?
I guess his name would be Google.

8. Why don't more of you wear sexy underwear on a regular basis?
Some of it can be uncomfortable, or it just doesn't really matter if no one's going to see it.

9. Why do you think a guy should buy you dinner on the first date?
I think whoever did the asking should buy.

10. How much does looks matter after you first meet a guy?
Not that much really. I met a guy the other night who wasn't that great looks wise, but I talked with him for about an hour and couldn't stop thinking about him the rest of the night because his personality was so sexy (bet you'll never hear a guy say that, lol!)


Oh, and yes, toilet paper goes over the top.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Dongfu said:
Okay, I posted this question on a previous forum.

Can a guy build attraction with a woman who has no initial attraction toward him?

In other words, can a guy, using words and behavior patters get a woman to become interested in him, when she initially was not attracted to the way he looks, etc.?
Absolutely! Although there's a fine line between "growing on her" and "becoming a stalker" Keep it casual, friendly, and non-aggressive. If she warms up she warms up, if not, move on. Don't push it or she'll cut you out altogether because it will appear that you can't handle a simple friendship.
 

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Lexie said:
10. How much does looks matter after you first meet a guy?
Not that much really. I met a guy the other night who wasn't that great looks wise, but I talked with him for about an hour and couldn't stop thinking about him the rest of the night because his personality was so sexy (bet you'll never hear a guy say that, lol!)
Actually I said that :yes:
 

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If I leave the toilet seat in a state ready for your next use, will you do the same for me? Why or why not?
No. I keep the lid closed because a stream of bacteria shoots 6 feet in every direction if you don't. You really want that all over your toothbrush?
 

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The first and last time I had the toilet seat lid discussion with Mrs. Tomassi was about year 3 of our marriage. It was actually very easy to settle. You see, since it's just as easy to leave it up as leave it down, we got into the obligatory debate about who would concede to do what. After some "spirited discussions" I simply went out to Home Depot and bought a urinal and the flush plumbing hardware and put it in the garage. She asked me what it was for and I said "porblem solved." To which she said "oh no, I'm not having guests and family use our bathroom when it has a urinal in it!" And I said "right, because then you'd have to explain why it was there."

I returned the urinal for a refund and there's never been another word about it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lexie said:
No. I keep the lid closed because a stream of bacteria shoots 6 feet in every direction if you don't. You really want that all over your toothbrush?
Now I know you're really a chick. All guys have watched the Mythbuster episode where this was disproved. But I do always close the lid, because there is a right way to store things and for toilets that way is lid = down.
 

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bigjohnson said:
Now I know you're really a chick. All guys have watched the Mythbuster episode where this was disproved. But I do always close the lid, because there is a right way to store things and for toilets that way is lid = down.
I actually do like mythbusters, guess I missed that episode. There is a never-aired show on youtube about the "girls don't fart" myth, Francisco, you should check it out.

Kudos for putting down the seat though. I can't believe Rollo got away with that urinal stunt!
 

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Dongfu said:
Good point. That's why we need more details from her. I want to hear about a guy who is considerable less attractive than his target, who still closes the deal.

And further, we dont know the HB rating of the origional poster. If we could see a picture of her and him, then we would have a better idea of this guys accomplishment.
Lexie, can you comment here please
 

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Lexie said:
6. What do women want, really?
To feel needed, important, special, and unique. More than a number.
In other words according to her, woman want to be Pedistalled. There's a reason you can't take women advice too seriously if at all.
 

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At least she was being honest, keto.
The question wasn't "What are women attracted to in Men?"
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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