"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Woman talking about other men.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Demodulate

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KarmaSutra said:
33 year old guys don't say "like" after every third word.

I call shenanigans on you and this whole thread is a unique example of how boys act when they haven't been ritually murdered then reborn as men.

you do when you get home and your still a little buzzed...

anyway believe what you want..

i got what I needed out of it with Dangers response..
 

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I think you've been reamed enough, Demodulate, but just keep this in mind:

If you date a kid, dont be surprised if you end up playing kid's games.

She's 22, youre 33. Im not saying you cant date younger women, but dont be serious about it. And dont be surprised if you end up in high-school situations like this.
 

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Heh. Don't worry Demodulate, I guarantee everyone in this thread has experienced similar shyt. Don't tell her that you love her back. In fact, now would be a good time to give this broad some space. Let's see how serious she is when she says she 'loves you'.
 

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Demodulate said:
i got what I needed out of it with Dangers response..
I see. You got the instant gratification you were so jonesing after.

Congratulations, you're a woman.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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mintxx

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( . )( . ) said:
Your join date says FEB 2003 ..... Are you serious?

A whole bunch of drama of the retards just went down, and your the latest King of it sitting atop spastic castle with a sh!t eating look of total stupidity.

Welcome to HER world bozo.


Real question is wtf is this doing in the mature section. :down:
fvcking EXACTLY. goddamn trash. stay away from it man!
 

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( . )( . ) said:
A whole bunch of drama of the retards just went down, and your the latest King of it sitting atop spastic castle with a sh!t eating look of total stupidity.

Welcome to HER world bozo.
:crackup:
 

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It amazes me how men are prepared to allow women to play out this jealousy thing to this degree. Imagine you were dating a woman and you kept telling her how this one woman would not leave you alone. Imagine you were taking calls and texting this same woman when she was around. Would a decent quality women tolerate this from you? Of course not. FFS, how many red flags does a person need to realise that this woman is an attention ***** drama queen.

You walk away from that ****, you dont try pass her **** tests. Those are not **** tests. Those are ****ing insults.

Its one thing her telling you some guy asked you out. Its another thing having a woman pull the stunts she was pulling.
 

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I'm really curious as to why this girl has some weird obsession with the other guy when she's banging you. Why is she trying to make HIM jealous, knowing that no good can come of it for YOU?

My take is that she has some sort of history with the other guy--maybe she liked him at one time and he coolly rejected her and now wants her, maybe it was more serious than that. It's not normal for an AW to single out a random guy like that, unless he's guilty of a lot more than just liking her.

Anyway, you told her if she pulled that nonsense again you were done, now hold your position. I would tell her to block this guy's # and cease contact with him, just to test how serious she is about you. This is really the only way this drama isn't going to resurface. Be sure she knows it's not about trying to control her or who she talks to, it's about the fact that this other guy is trying to sabotage your relationship (or "whatever"-ship) and WILL break the two of you up if she continues to let him harass her.

WATCH OUT FOR AFC ORBITERS!! They may seem harmless, but they can stir up all sorts of drama and destroy your relationships. If a guy makes his interest known to your girlfriend, it is her responsibility to cut contact with him, outside of a work environment. There is ABSOLUTELY NO GOOD that can come of having an AFC constantly trying to wear down your girlfriend.
 
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