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[Vanderdonck]

This is why I have such a hard time with the opposite sex. There are way too many rules to keep track of.

There are no "rules." There is simply what women respond to and what they don't. Just go with what works and discard what doesn't.

 

[GoodMan32]

If she texted you immediately after getting your number, it's bound to be her. You want to keep the chill/cool/sexy vibe on a site like Feeld. It's like the "secret society" thing so don't mention the site, and don't request confirmation. That being said, girls who text me but don't identify themselves usually tend to be difficult in my experience. Even if you just gave her your number, there's no point in making you guess. It's an indicator of potential compliance issues.

Think of it this way - if she texts you immediately, who else would it be? And obviously you want to appear confident, so don't be seeking confirmation it's her unless she starts acting really weird and incongruent.

What you're saying might make sense to neurotypical men, yet it sounds silly to autists.

From my perspective at least, there's barely any difference between saying "This is _____ from Feeld, right?" vs "Hey (insert her name)"

If such a trivial wording difference can determine whether she'll even reply to my initial text, I'd really be in for a disaster with all the nuances that would come up if I got involved with her.

 

[GoodMan32]

There are no "rules." There is simply what women respond to and what they don't. Just go with what works and discard what doesn't.

My problem is, again, the fact my instinct is lacking. No matter how many guidelines this forum sets me straight on, there will inevitably be some no-no the posters haven't set me straight on that I mess up on with the next woman.

I get what you're saying about discarding what doesn't work. But unfortunately, discarding what doesn't work won't get me any closer to my goal if I still don't know what does work.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

What you're saying might make sense to neurotypical men, yet it sounds silly to autists.

From my perspective at least, there's barely any difference between saying "This is _____ from Feeld, right?" vs "Hey (insert her name)"

If such a trivial wording difference can determine whether she'll even reply to my initial text, I'd really be in for a disaster with all the nuances that would come up if I got involved with her.

Do you speak in monotone OP? I you were to speak the two phrases, you'd probably hear the difference. A NT definitely would, but you prob would as well.

 

[GoodMan32]

Do you speak in monotone OP? I you were to speak the two phrases, you'd probably hear the difference. A NT definitely would, but you prob would as well.

I don't pay a whole lot of attention to whether I speak in monotone

 

[BaronOfHair]

This is why I have such a hard time with the opposite sex. There are way too many rules to keep track of

It's not a matter of "rules"... It's a matter familiarizing oneself with which approaches are more likely to move us forward in life, rather than keep us stagnant

 

[Vanderdonck]

My problem is, again, the fact my instinct is lacking. No matter how many guidelines this forum sets me straight on, there will inevitably be some no-no the posters haven't set me straight on that I mess up on with the next woman.

I get what you're saying about discarding what doesn't work. But unfortunately, discarding what doesn't work won't get me any closer to my goal if I still don't know what does work.

Yes it will. If you still don't know, keep trying. That's the only way through and the only way to get closer to your goal.

There are no "no-no's." There is simply what women do and don't respond to.

 

[GoodMan32]

Yes it will. If you still don't know, keep trying. That's the only way through and the only way to get closer to your goal.

There are no "no-no's." There is simply what women do and don't respond to.

There are infinite things they don't respond well to though. When your social instinct is as lacking as mine, you could spend a lifetime messing up without learning what they do respond well to.

 

[Vanderdonck]

There are infinite things they don't respond well to though. When your social instinct is as lacking as mine, you could spend a lifetime messing up without learning what they do respond well to.

Nah, it won't take a lifetime. Your social instinct isn't lacking, trust me. You're a lot smarter than that.

 

[Cheeky_James]

I’m using Feeld exclusively atm.
As I got banned off Tinder and Bumble (long story- I was messing around with my pics stupidly)
That Feels app is so glitchy and weird , it’s like a poker machine how it randomly pays out like that with likes and matches.
I’m suspicious half my pings and likes don’t even make it through to the other side tbh.
I think it’s “rigged” that way to encourage upsell etc pretty sure of it,,,

 

[GoodMan32]

I’m using Feeld exclusively atm.
As I got banned off Tinder and Bumble (long story- I was messing around with my pics stupidly)
That Feels app is so glitchy and weird , it’s like a poker machine how it randomly pays out like that with likes and matches.
I’m suspicious half my pings and likes don’t even make it through to the other side tbh.
I think it’s “rigged” that way to encourage upsell etc pretty sure of it,,,

My biggest complaint with Feeld is that it shows lesbians in my feed.

Yeah, I know my preferences are set up to only show me female members...but every other app filters out lesbians from a straight man's feed (as there's no point in showing us a woman who isn't even into men)

 

[BaronOfHair]

My biggest complaint with Feeld is that it shows lesbians in my feed

Many gals identifying as such aren't especially committed to that lifestyle, are still more than willing to rock between the sheets with men they find appealing