"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Woman making it easy.

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I am shocked! I link up with woman online, no big texting from me, ask for the date right off and she says yes. I keep texting to zero until today. No flake, no hard to get , no maybe plans. Hell she even confirmed with me today before I got a chance to. Date is tonight.

I am so used to women being difficult that I am almost not believing this one. I guess she didn’t read that stupid book “the rules” that said you need to play hard to get We shall see.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Don't get attached to the outcome. Meet her and have fun. No expectations. If you start having any gut feelings like something isn't right (or is too good to be true), you already know it won't work out.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She was about a 7.
but she spent half the date telling me all about her ex husband and ex boyfriend. Turn off.
 

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She was about a 7.
but she spent half the date telling me all about her ex husband and ex boyfriend. Turn off.
It’s your job to lead the conversation, next time change the subject, if she persists, I would just get up and walk out. Time is the most valuable thing you can give a person. Show these women that you aren’t there to listen to their problems and you do that through action.
 

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Ya know. Some women actually are nice people. Shocker, I know...but maybe she’s actually a nice person.

A refreshing change of pace to be sure.

Have fun & enjoy. Don’t over think.
Well, you are proof according to your avatar.
 

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She was about a 7.
but she spent half the date telling me all about her ex husband and ex boyfriend. Turn off.
You can learn alot from these stories, because this is exactly how she will treat you down the line. You learn alot about her. I embrace this information, to a certain degree.
If that's all she's talking about then either they just broke up very recently or she's hung up on the alpha that dumped her = ****ty situation.
My ex's mother was left by her man and she was still obsessed by him years later, and i really mean obsessed. Getting dumped goes against the program and is something women have a hard time dealing with because they're not used to it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You can learn alot from these stories, because this is exactly how she will treat you down the line. You learn alot about her. I embrace this information, to a certain degree.
If that's all she's talking about then either they just broke up very recently or she's hung up on the alpha that dumped her = ****ty situation.
My ex's mother was left by her man and she was still obsessed by him years later, and i really mean obsessed. Getting dumped goes against the program and is something women have a hard time dealing with because they're not used to it.
Nope. Ex husband divorce was 11 years ago. Ex boyfriend 5 years ago.
 

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She was about a 7.
but she spent half the date telling me all about her ex husband and ex boyfriend. Turn off.
And you listened? Why didn’t you interject and take the conversation towards your aims and goals?
 

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he was still cleaning her pipes out 2 nights before she met you, but he rejects her deems her unworthy, and she cant handle it...

shes a professional victim
Dude. The ex boyfriend died of cancer, so I think not.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The ex boyfriend died of cancer,
.....every girl i know who has been widowed in some way, does nothing but pine and waffle on about the deceased guy

i would never date a woman who mentioned a previous partner had died
 

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She was about a 7.
but she spent half the date telling me all about her ex husband and ex boyfriend. Turn off.
I'm so tired of that. They even do that After sex. Ok, so you wanna rub it in that an older man is paying $3000 a month for your apartment, ok I get it, thanks for telling me.
 

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I would of asked her if she ever had a guy *** on her face. I would of being pushing for that.
 

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Her: My ex blah, blah, blah
Me: You know what? Let's not dwell on the past. That's over. I'm not interested in all that. We are here today. Let's enjoy ourselves.

She learns that she is not going to be able to use you as her personal verbal dumpster and that you have expectations of her behavior.

Her response determines whether or not the date continues.
 
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