"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Woman I used to like may find out about DD CDs

Maeisgood

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The craziest thing happened. I bumped into a woman I used to like and she said her dad accidently got my mail. Being a typical woman, she opened it because she said since it was about the same college she wanted to apply to, that she should see it. They can justify any snooping. I'm afraid that my "David DeAngelo Communication" CDs will fall into her hands and she'll find out what she's driven me to. She knows all the same people I do so word will spread.

1. How do I switch where they are mailed to?

2. How do I find out if she's found them or not without letting her know too much?

I have nothing but respect for David D, but it'd be embarassing to admit I need the help, especially since she's a part of the reason I bought them in the first place. What were the odds her dad and I would have the same PO Box number, and have him get my mail?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ethnomethodologist

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Call your PO and ask if it can be sent 'general delivery' that way you can pick it up at your leisure.
 

Eulogy

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Tell her not to open your ****ing letters and packages?
 

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If you have another email address (if you dont, make one) and email all your D. Deangelo stuff to your other inbox. Then find an alreasy existing newsletter in your inbox and choose the link to unsuscribe. Then just be straight with her that you don't like her reading your emails and that she should just make her own...don't wuss out, be straight with that. I doubt she will react in a negative way - she will most likely respect that. ANd case closed...hopefully. :)

P.S. Changing your pass can also do the trick! DeAngelo says that we shouldnt be ashamed of it and that women will appreciate the fact that we try to improve the way we communicate with them...But I dont know about that lol.
 

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Thanks for the advice all. It was the real mail she was opening. Her dad has the same PO Box number as me, but in a different town. She opening my friggin mail. I want to mail myself a letter that insults her in it and then when she yells at me I can laugh at her and say I got you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Damn...sorry man, I misread your post from the beginning. I thought email address instead of PO Box :crackup:
 

ethnomethodologist

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The hell is the postal service doing sending **** to a different town? There is such thing as zip codes... I think this is a lie now....

Anywho, I hope your not just worrying that after you order this that the girl will suddenly get all jumpy and start thinking of you like your a loser. If so, than you really are a loser, and you need DYD to boost your innergame.

You do need innergame, if you worry about this at all!
 

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Get a control of yourself.

You've been here since 2004 and you are still an AFC.


Why would you even LET HER OPEN YOUR MAIL?!
 

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Who gives a f*** what other people think?

And tell her she has no business opening your mail.
 

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Your post doesn't make any sense. Why would the mail service send your mail to a person in a different town with a totally different name?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ethnomethodologist

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Dust 2 Dust said:
Your post doesn't make any sense. Why would the mail service send your mail to a person in a different town with a totally different name?
:whistle:
 

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Assuming you live in the US, You can always inform her that it's a federal crime for her to open up your mail.

EDIT: Different town? Why worry?
 

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Yes, bluelemond, I let her open my mail. That is exactly why I have been an AFC for two years.

You did not get the point. My mail (real physical US Postal service mail) was accidently sent to her dad's PO Box, she got my mail and opened it. I was asking what to do about it she found it or how to get it sent to the right place. I have told her not to open my mail, its a crime, and to forward it to me.

It would be the ultimate flattery for her to learn that as soon as I lost my chance with her that I spent over a hundred dollars on how to learn to not suck.
 

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Maeisgood said:
that as soon as I lost my chance with her

Get a CONTROL of yourself.

She is the one that is loosing the chance with YOU.

You are the PRIZE!



Read the DJ Bible, because I'm assuming you haven't.
 
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