"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Woman I like at work, not sure how to go about it

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Well, I've definitely got something for an older woman at work.

The way she looks at me makes me smile and feel drawn towards her, but when she's not looking at me I don't find her anywhere near as attractive! :confused:


Every day I tell myself, Im gonna just ask straight out for her number and ask her to join me for a coffee/drink, but I get discouraged in the presence of co workers.

Its just a temp job and the office there is very relaxed.

Thing is the office workers pretty much always make dirty jokes to each other, and I find that a bit of a turn off, but I can tell, when Im around, the woman tries to rise above it and pass the jokes off.
I'm pissed that I've left it till now to post here, I've been meaning to ask her out for a week now...


So I need to catch her when nobody else is around, or maybe use the PC to write rather than speak?! Sounds sad but what can I do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Hay, going to lunch? I think Ill join you"
 
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Don't talk to women you work with. It could turn into a cluster eff and you could lose your job.
 
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That was quick! Yeah, sounds like a plan selfmademob and Skel.
Im out on site most of the day so finding time to talk when back at base is at a premium.


Work + attraction, thats what bugs me Maximus Rex, I read on here about how dating a coworker is a no go, but its not something I've done before, and well its only a temp job... but I do keep trying to find reasons to not ask her out!

What's a cluster eff?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cluster F*ck. A really bad sitution. If it's that important to ask her out, if another job.
 
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