You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Doesn't matter. You'd literally have to be mentally retarded to be that stupid. Its not even a matter of being sheltered, its a matter of common sense.Wyldfire said:
I know it came out sorta funny but I was serious. It has all the hallmarks of a dumped chick trying every trick in her book to get even. She played the he tricked me card. She played the he has a disease card. She played the I'm so innocent card.ValleyDJing said:
Yes, people really can be that ignorant of information. Look at all the people in Africa who are dying of AIDS in epidemic proportions. We've been giving them free condoms for a LONG time, giving information about AIDS and many African men still refuse to use condoms even though they know they are at high risk of catching a disease that will kill them and orphan their children.ValleyDJing said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Wyldfire said:
ValleyDJing said:
I imagine its tough being over there, because everyone's walking around with their s*** all hanging out and exposed. If you see one you like, you can just pull her behind the nearest bush and take care of business. Who's thinking about condoms when sex can just be "spir of the moment" in that setting?Wyldfire said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yep...I think he could be charged on a sexual offense only if he were in some way impersonating a doctor or medically trained person where, in this situation, he would be in a position of authority. In those types of cases it's considered more serious than just two peers.JohnJones said: