"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Woman asks me to call her before our first date

MatureDJ

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I've had a few gals ask me to do this. Since I - like most men - have the self-respect to follow through on my promises, it's not a problem; heck, it's great to know that she is going to flake so that I don't have to leave my home. That said, the gals that wanted me to do this were the flakiest ...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RangerMIke

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It's a phone call. No big deal. Most chicks I date in their 40s prefer a phone call to texting anyway.

She contacted you... which is what you want. When a chick does what you want, to train her properly you reward her.

Call her, keep it short make the date.
 
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