"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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One thing I m not sure on in the DJ approach to life.
Is it worth trying to make female friends?

My experience is that they tend to drop u once they be got a boyfriend.

Social proof seems to say yes u should. On the other hand they re flakier than I d accept in my male friends.

And b interested in yr thoughts on the special case of being friends with Exes.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ubercat said:
One thing I m not sure on in the DJ approach to life.
Is it worth trying to make female friends?

My experience is that they tend to drop u once they be got a boyfriend.

Social proof seems to say yes u should. On the other hand they re flakier than I d accept in my male friends.

And b interested in yr thoughts on the special case of being friends with Exes.
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They can be a friend with you in ways other than sex and intimacy...

But no you shouldn't be making friends with ones you have a strong attraction for, and they keep you friendzoned. It's not good for your mojo.
 
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which gets back to Exes. One from an LTR got in contact to swap some stuff. Not looking to get back - I pulled the pin We were good friends. Be interested in your experiences. Diff dynamic with a LTR g/f - you do a lot of things for her. You wouldn't want to repeat that.
 
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which gets back to Exes. One from an LTR got in contact to swap some stuff. Not looking to get back - I pulled the pin We were good friends. Be interested in your experiences. Diff dynamic with a LTR g/f - you do a lot of things for her. You wouldn't want to repeat that.
 
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I don't personally think that having female friends returns a lot of value, unless they're FWB of course. Although I enjoy the company of women and their feminine energy, if they're not willing to have sex with you I don't see much point in hanging around with them.

As for exes, I have no problem at all being civil, or even friendly with my exes. But I don't hang around with them.

I do think that female friends are good for one thing: If you have a lot of female friends, they can make for a good smokescreen if you are looking to cheat. If you have the kind of relationship where opposite sex friends are fine, or even routine, you could bang certain women and if your girlfriend complains, you can say "Oh, she's just a friend". This isn't my style, but I know a lot of guys around here are into cheating, so there you go.

Women can also use male friends to camouflage their cheating, by the way.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ubercat said:
My experience is that they tend to drop u once they be got a boyfriend.
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Some do and some don't. It really depends on their level of interest in you.

And b interested in yr thoughts on the special case of being friends with Exes.
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The only way you can be friends with an ex is if you are completely 100% over her. If you have absolutely no desire to fvck her, then all of it is in your favor.
 
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Thanks Guys

I'm already hunting unicorns. Think I'll leave the purple ones alone. Odd had lots of female friends when I was in NZ - still got some of them 10 years later. Here in Oz they seem very transactional - i.e. wanting to profit on every deal not play the average. I'll DX her stuff.
 
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You can't really be friends with women. Either you want them or they want you. You could become friends with an average looking girl who you would not fvck but chances are she wants you.
 
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mangotot said:
You can't really be friends with women. Either you want them or they want you. You could become friends with an average looking girl who you would not fvck but chances are she wants you.
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You can bang her occasionally as a friend. You don't treat your friends like $hit do you? Just be honest about this is going no where and it's mutual pleasure in sex.

But do you really think the one you try to make your woman has to give you "butterflies"? Many of us in real LTR's know that doesn't last, but good sex and loyalty can.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'd say you can be friends with women.

But you have to have NO attraction to them whatsoever and it depends on the chick.

Most female friends are a waste of time, they want something or they are you friend because of XYZ.

Friends with the Ex- I think you can be polite and pleasant but being friends- not if you ever shared an emotional connection. It's never healthy.
 
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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
I always feel "used" after I hang out with them unless I sought them out first out of boredom
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Holy shìt, that's so on-point! Couldn't agree more.

Listen to the guys above. Buddies for truckin, females for fûckin.
 
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