woman as friends

[ubercat]

One thing I m not sure on in the DJ approach to life.
Is it worth trying to make female friends?

My experience is that they tend to drop u once they be got a boyfriend.

Social proof seems to say yes u should. On the other hand they re flakier than I d accept in my male friends.

And b interested in yr thoughts on the special case of being friends with Exes.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

One thing I m not sure on in the DJ approach to life.
Is it worth trying to make female friends?

My experience is that they tend to drop u once they be got a boyfriend.

Social proof seems to say yes u should. On the other hand they re flakier than I d accept in my male friends.

And b interested in yr thoughts on the special case of being friends with Exes.

They can be a friend with you in ways other than sex and intimacy...

But no you shouldn't be making friends with ones you have a strong attraction for, and they keep you friendzoned. It's not good for your mojo.

 

[ubercat]

which gets back to Exes. One from an LTR got in contact to swap some stuff. Not looking to get back - I pulled the pin We were good friends. Be interested in your experiences. Diff dynamic with a LTR g/f - you do a lot of things for her. You wouldn't want to repeat that.

 

[ubercat]

which gets back to Exes. One from an LTR got in contact to swap some stuff. Not looking to get back - I pulled the pin We were good friends. Be interested in your experiences. Diff dynamic with a LTR g/f - you do a lot of things for her. You wouldn't want to repeat that.

 

[zekko]

I don't personally think that having female friends returns a lot of value, unless they're FWB of course. Although I enjoy the company of women and their feminine energy, if they're not willing to have sex with you I don't see much point in hanging around with them.

As for exes, I have no problem at all being civil, or even friendly with my exes. But I don't hang around with them.

I do think that female friends are good for one thing: If you have a lot of female friends, they can make for a good smokescreen if you are looking to cheat. If you have the kind of relationship where opposite sex friends are fine, or even routine, you could bang certain women and if your girlfriend complains, you can say "Oh, she's just a friend". This isn't my style, but I know a lot of guys around here are into cheating, so there you go.

Women can also use male friends to camouflage their cheating, by the way.

 

[Desdinova]

My experience is that they tend to drop u once they be got a boyfriend.

Some do and some don't. It really depends on their level of interest in you.

And b interested in yr thoughts on the special case of being friends with Exes.

The only way you can be friends with an ex is if you are completely 100% over her. If you have absolutely no desire to fvck her, then all of it is in your favor.

 

[YawataNoKami]

Female friends=purple unicorn

 

[ubercat]

Thanks Guys

I'm already hunting unicorns. Think I'll leave the purple ones alone. Odd had lots of female friends when I was in NZ - still got some of them 10 years later. Here in Oz they seem very transactional - i.e. wanting to profit on every deal not play the average. I'll DX her stuff.

 

[mangotot]

You can't really be friends with women. Either you want them or they want you. You could become friends with an average looking girl who you would not fvck but chances are she wants you.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

You can't really be friends with women. Either you want them or they want you. You could become friends with an average looking girl who you would not fvck but chances are she wants you.

You can bang her occasionally as a friend. You don't treat your friends like $hit do you? Just be honest about this is going no where and it's mutual pleasure in sex.

But do you really think the one you try to make your woman has to give you "butterflies"? Many of us in real LTR's know that doesn't last, but good sex and loyalty can.

 

[Lozboss]

I'd say you can be friends with women.

But you have to have NO attraction to them whatsoever and it depends on the chick.

Most female friends are a waste of time, they want something or they are you friend because of XYZ.

Friends with the Ex- I think you can be polite and pleasant but being friends- not if you ever shared an emotional connection. It's never healthy.

 

[VladPatton]

I always feel "used" after I hang out with them unless I sought them out first out of boredom

Holy shìt, that's so on-point! Couldn't agree more.

Listen to the guys above. Buddies for truckin, females for fûckin.