"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Woke stripper complains about management wanting her to have a certain look

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The dancing manager, a woman I later knew to be Cheryl, told me to stand up against the wall and she took photos of me from different angles. When she was finished, she told me that she would let me know what the boss thought.
Not long after, Cheryl pulled me aside and told me, “I’m sorry, but the boss says you cannot dance tonight because your hair is not done.”
“What?! My hair is done!” I said.
“The boss didn’t like it. You can come back when it’s done,” she said.
My heart sank to my stomach. I was confused. This was a Black-owned club. If I should be accepted anywhere with my Afro, it should be here.
I looked around me and noticed that all of the other Black girls had their hair straightened, in long braids, or wore wigs and that the only women with their natural hair out were those who had a loose curl pattern, 1a-3b.
A hard rock sat in my stomach and I felt shame ― not from the stigmatization of sex work, not from standing in the hallway in a revealing outfit, but the shame that arises when you must change ― conform yourself ― to satisfy Eurocentric modes of beauty that say you can be Black, but not too Black — that you can wear your natural hair, but only if there is a loose curl pattern, not the nappy 4b Afro that graciously sprung from my scalp.
Penda Smith is an open genre creative writer who is interested in how Black women survive through the use of erotic resistance.
my opinion: It will only be a matter of time before fat chicks start complaining that strip joint management wants them to be trim; if strip joints ever give in and go woke, it will be OVER for VoyeurCels. :down:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Your brand of ‘feminism’ isn’t real feminism if you’re dictating what a woman can do, look like and dream," Nance shot back. "Women aren’t objects. We don’t exist for conception. The point is that we can be everything — and anything — we want. Period.
 

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Your brand of ‘feminism’ isn’t real feminism if you’re dictating what a woman can do, look like and dream," Nance shot back. "Women aren’t objects. We don’t exist for conception. The point is that we can be everything — and anything — we want. Period.
Unlike regular mass, I am not attracted to her "black hole".
 

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To complain about having to look a particular way in a job where the look is a major part it is just stupid. What's next? Actors b!tching about looking the way the director needs for a role?

It's a job, it's not personal, it's what the customers wants and what brings in the money. I can understand such complaints where looks aren't particularly relevant to the job, like mostly being hidden away in an office all day anyways.

She chose the wrong job to have valid complaints about being told how to look.

And wtf is "erotic resistance"?!
 

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Dumb people dont understand that private businesses need to provide clients what they want rather than the provider believes is right.

They probably confuse a private business with a public service, where people pay for only cause they are robbed through taxation.

Anyway hope all strip clubs fail after men wake up and realize how dumb it is to pay to just watch a woman when for a similar amount you can bang her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dumb people dont understand that private businesses need to provide clients what they want rather than the provider believes is right.

They probably confuse a private business with a public service, where people pay for only cause they are robbed through taxation.

Anyway hope all strip clubs fail after men wake up and realize how dumb it is to pay to just watch a woman when for a similar amount you can bang her.
Obviously, you are using the European standard of sex-worker value.
 
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