"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Witty response to "do what"

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If you ask a girl to hang out and she says do what, whats a good witty response I can say back.


Made the mistake of saying chill and have fun, I guess she took that a bit sexually and isnt responding back.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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...you don't really need a witty response. Say what you're going to do.

for example: (if this is a first date)

"go get coffee"

"come get a drink with me on Friday"

"go to my friend's party this Saturday"


...etc.
 

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She just messaged me and said im sooo bored, so i figured she wanted to hang out..alright true, thanks for the answers bro. Anyway I can fix this to still hang out with her?
 

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Plus we are also planning on going to halloween party this weekend, this was just a out of no where random message tonight
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You don't need witty responses to "Do what?"

Saying that you're gonna chill, drink, or watch a movie should be enough.

If she thinks that "Chill" is too sexual then she's a f--kin idiot.
 

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heres a witty response that i use that always gets a laugh, hopefully you dont over use.

me- R u ready to get into some trouble this weekend?
girl- What are we going to do?
me- Bible studies (obviously they know im joking)
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
You don't need witty responses to "Do what?"

Saying that you're gonna chill, drink, or watch a movie should be enough.

If she thinks that "Chill" is too sexual then she's a f--kin idiot.
Thats my guess brotha, not sure. After I said that she didnt respond, so that would be my only guess..and yea shes a bit ditzy haha but I like it ;)
 

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Don't ask a girl to "hang out". It's weak and directionless; female traits.

That's why she's asking you "To do what?". She wants you to lead.

The phrase "hang out" is weak, weak, weak.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Be specific about what you want to do, so she knows it will be worth her while to hang out with you. For all she knows, you want her to come over and watch you play WoW for two hours.
 

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I like saying "we will go on an adventure" or "be adventure partners/buddies".

It gets them intrigued and gives you room to decide what you want to do; remember it’s about what YOU want to do, the girl is just joining you on your awesome life.
 

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Crissco said:
Made the mistake of saying chill and have fun, I guess she took that a bit sexually and isnt responding back.
Did you not mean to be sexual?
 

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loveshogun said:
Did you not mean to be sexual?
My intentions in my head were lol Didnt want to bring up anything sexual just yet, at least untill we hang out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You're worrying too much about how you're coming across. Just relax and have a little fun with her. Be a smartass.

I probably would have said something like:

"I figure we'll start with an orgy and if there's any time afterward, maybe a little conversation."
 

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yeah, I recently got asked this question in the form of "what are you going to do?" and i said "be awesome u know the usual" and she responded with "Lol and also be modest. what are you doing tomorrow night?" to which i should've answered "you" or "drugs", but instead, i said "i don't have plans yet" and she hasn't responded yet. that's the perfect opportunity to ask to join her on something (i've taken this girl out on a date before). when a woman gives you excuses it's not because the text is bad, it's because the girl isn't interested.

look at atom smasher's quote. provided that you have basic social skills, it's completely true and it totally applies to this situation. outside of some VERY basic things, there is no such thing as text game.
 
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