"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This weekend while out with wife and friends I witnessed something that brought a smile. One of my buddy's friends came out to meet us. He's one of those natural DJ/PUA/Alpha types. You know, if you told him about this forumn he'd just laugh it off.

Anyways, early on he spots this fine HB (I'll say 7.5-8 range). He immediately approaches (zero fear of rejection) and opens the HB. She responds exactly: "I'm here with my boyfriend." Without missing a beat, with the perfect c0cky attitude and grin he says "Well I'm not interested in your boyfriend." ...by the end of the evening he was making out with her in the bar, in front of the *boyfriend* who watched the entire thing and did nothing to intervene.

Its awesome watching someone work who has completely killed off their fear of rejection. And the other dude was never a *boyfriend*, he was just her convient AFC defense shield / puppy / girlfriend. And those shields literally dropped with just one sentence spoken with true confidence.

For the PUA/DJ dude, he's got so much confidence that he's simply re-inforcing at this point.

Now let's hope that pathetic beta AFC *boyfriend* will seek out answers to his [probably] painful experience. It's times like that when I wish Sosuave had a business card with a great slogan and simple web address. I would have handed it to the chump - he looked like he was ready for it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ouch for the other guy...I wonder if your friend knew they were not together through body language.

BTW people bring up pua stuff to me all the time (when im spitten game like a pimp man) and I never say that I use it/know about it/whatever.
It is one thing to say your a pua or dating specialist but studing girls online with other guys is a no-no. Plus i don't want anyonme else to know it works :)
 
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Sinistar said:
...Now let's hope that pathetic beta AFC *boyfriend* will seek out answers to his [probably] painful experience. It's times like that when I wish Sosuave had a business card with a great slogan and simple web address. I would have handed it to the chump - he looked like he was ready for it.
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FYI, the guy wasn't her boyfriend, he was a friend who was a boy(guy/afc). Not detracting from your bud, he handled it appropriately but c'mon, see it for what it is. If the "boyfriend" was actually her boyfriend, he would have stepped in AND she would have retreated to her boyfriend's "safe zone."
 
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Without missing a beat, with the perfect c0cky attitude and grin he says "Well I'm not interested in your boyfriend." ...
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This is friggin' NAILS!
 
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Yeah, I absolutely loved that line. Just hearing it [live] had several of us chuckling.

And yeah, as I said, the other guy was [very likely] much more her puppy dog than her Alpha dog. Yet, the best part. My buddy's friend just blazed right through it with such a simple, perfect line. Only a few would have approached her in the first place (90% of all guys being AFC to start with). And every AFC who received her response would have bowed out. This dude did the exact opposite, immediately threw the ball right back in her court - with a wicked spin to boot. She'd probably never had that happen to her before!

Since someone asked, her supposed *boyfriend* was no where in sight when this guy approached. He came up later. He definitely did not look happy (no matter what his real status was).

Being AFC hurts for a reason - it's your inner DJ trying to wake you up from a mindless slumber. I'm thinking this other guy finally woke up.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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...Since someone asked, her supposed *boyfriend* was no where in sight when this guy approached. He came up later. He definitely did not look happy (no matter what his real status was).
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He probably spent his weeks allowance to get her into the club and buy her drinks... :p
 
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she sounds like marriage material.
 
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It's the best thing for that guy too. He knows not to waste any more time on her. Sometimes you need that kick in the ass.
 
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Nice, but would a guy honestly want to be serious with a girl that uses other men?
 
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betterthandead said:
Nice, but would a guy honestly want to be serious with a girl that uses other men?
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...trust me, he's not the type of guy who will fall in love with a woman who was that easy to close. This guy is a master at spinning plates (from what my friend tells me). She's just another plate (that turned out to be easy to spin).
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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betterthandead said:
Nice, but would a guy honestly want to be serious with a girl that uses other men?
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Take a raw T-Bone steak and wave it in front of a Doberman, what's the dog going to do? He's going eat it, and probably take half your hand down with it; it's what a Doberman does. Put a doormat AFC in front of a woman and she'll do the same thing.

Women only use men who'll alow themselves to be used.
 
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