Withdrawal after intimacy: should we be worried?

[jhonny9546]

Hi there guys!

I'm pretty sure that you ever felt an intense attraction tiwards a specific woman, at least once in your life.
You know those emotions you felt, and once she's gone, she may be at work, or somewhere else, you really feel that withdrawal.
You miss what you felt when she was with you.

Now, I've never tried any drugs, so I don't know, but for my personal POV, it's really strong sensation of missing and wanting that sensation back.
I wanted to ask if this is a normal thing, does it happen to you, to such level?
How Do you usually cope with, and when you should actually be worried about for your mental health?

Like, sometimes, I think that I should stop dating, or just have intimacy with women,because after that, I know I will feel those intense emotions in the sex or just by intimacy, and that I have to worry to miss her and "control" myself with those withdrawal.

It's like without women, you're on your way, you're stable emotionally, but once she enters your world, your stability is ****ed up

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I'd suggest you work on yourself because the problem is from within and no women can actually fill the void that is missing in your life.

 

[plumber]

you must be comfortable being alone before you can manage being with a woman.

there is a stack... lower layers are REQUIRED for upper layers. knowledge is required for good decisions.

-knowledge - mental
-emotional control - physical/mental
-nervous system -physical
-chemistry - physical
-anatomy - physical

what you can learn here SS is parts of emotional control and knowledge. you can not learn nervous system/chemistry/anatomy here.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Withdrawal after intimacy is the leading cause of wet spots.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Like, sometimes, I think that I should stop dating, or just have intimacy with women,because after that, I know I will feel those intense emotions in the sex or just by intimacy, and that I have to worry to miss her and "control" myself with those withdrawal

Life is filled with an infinite number of things that can induce intense emotions, subsequently become highly addictive. Fellas who've gorged themselves on entirely too much MGTOW content, and now believe hunting cooter to be a formidable habit to overcome need to spend a couple of months shooting dope into their veins

They're woefully oblivious to just how monsterous many compulsions can be. An addiction to chasing p-s-y ain't even within the vicinity of that list

 

[jhonny9546]

I understand... I don't think I have any "shortcomings," that is, I don't "need" anyone. I'm comfortable with myself.
There's definitely something else to understand, and I'm sure it stems from the fact that I still don't "know myself well."
Even the fact that I haven't found a career I love...

 

[sevbucmash]

You're describing it wrong. What you feel is called low confidence. After she's gone doing her chores, work, school, living her life, you feel discomfort of loosing her. You are afraid that she is intimate with another dude.

Truth is, she could be intimate with another dude. You'll never know. It's not something you can control.

However, this feeling of low confidence kills all attraction and leads to unhealthy relationships.

You need to work on yourself. You kill this feeling by working out, by being successful in your career, and by having several plates. You will not have low confidence if you have several women that you are dating, because loosing a woman won't be a problem for you. You will not have low confidence if you have successful job that makes you rich. You will not have low confidence if you have killer body and women jump in bed with you. Chad.

 

[jhonny9546]

You're describing it wrong. What you feel is called low confidence. After she's gone doing her chores, work, school, living her life, you feel discomfort of loosing her. You are afraid that she is intimate with another dude.



Truth is, she could be intimate with another dude. You'll never know. It's not something you can control.



However, this feeling of low confidence kills all attraction and leads to unhealthy relationships.



You need to work on yourself. You kill this feeling by working out, by being successful in your career, and by having several plates. You will not have low confidence if you have several women that you are dating, because loosing a woman won't be a problem for you. You will not have low confidence if you have successful job that makes you rich. You will not have low confidence if you have killer body and women jump in bed with you. Chad.

This is exactly where I take your advice, but I say we're going down the wrong path:
You can't gain trust from something external.

It will only be temporary. Do you know how many men I see in this state? What do these vain men do about their current situations? Yet I know they don't **** their wives and watch porn videos.

So trust comes from within, not from an external event like this.

 

[Travel memoir21]

This is exactly where I take your advice, but I say we're going down the wrong path:
You can't gain trust from something external.

It will only be temporary. Do you know how many men I see in this state? What do these vain men do about their current situations? Yet I know they don't **** their wives and watch porn videos.

So trust comes from within, not from an external event like this.

My friend, it seems like you are a seeker and that this seems like a spiritual problem. You’re seeking meaning within your current circumstances and that’s where you need to buckle down and do a lot of reading and research with recommended books by your local spiritual counselors. You can do this, We are cheering you on.