"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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In the last while my ex has been popping up in my fvcking dreams, last night I was with her and her ex, of course she's picking a fight she's angry with me for telling her what to do, her ex is begging her back like an AFC and I'm telling him she's not worth it. WTF why why why, I don't need to be dreaming of her, its never good, its always of her wanting to fight. Her recent ex begging her to come back, really? why was I dreaming of that.

I'm around women all the time I work with them I have female friends, I'm not currently in a relationship with any, my living situation isn't where I want to be, I'm working on that. Why oh why is my ex haunting my dreams, pissing me off.

Been going through weight loss, it usually brings on vivid dreams or I dream a lot, when I'm dreaming heavily and wake up in the morning I can feel fat loss happening.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Your dreams generally reflect your mind/subconscious trying to anticipate future or current problems and situations and basically running a problem solving program to prepare you for what life might throw at you.

As long as the relationship is a problem in your life this will happen.

For me the moment I wake up I instantly think about the last person I was with. It is the first thing that loads in my mind upon waking. It sucks
 
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For me the moment I wake up I instantly think about the last person I was with. It is the first thing that loads in my mind upon waking. It sucks
Yes. When everything is good and current with a girl those thoughts were there but barely noticeable because they were pleasant. After a split the thoughts are still there for awhile, but they are irritating as hell…
 

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Whenever I don’t feel like having dreams, I just think about something while I’m trying to go to sleep. Whenever I just clear my mind and stop thinking, I see crazy ass images and visions as my mind starts to go wild and stuff, and based on that I can somehow tell if I’m going to have a good dream or a bad one. But if I don’t feel like having a dream for whatever reason, I just think about something while trying to sleep and then I don’t get any dreams lol.
 

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Whenever I don’t feel like having dreams, I just think about something while I’m trying to go to sleep. Whenever I just clear my mind and stop thinking, I see crazy ass images and visions as my mind starts to go wild and stuff, and based on that I can somehow tell if I’m going to have a good dream or a bad one. But if I don’t feel like having a dream for whatever reason, I just think about something while trying to sleep and then I don’t get any dreams lol.
Yep, quite a few of the Ex dreams are caused by your mind running through what went wrong in the process of you falling asleep. Depends on what you think about…
Thinking about a new girl is a very effective mental past eraser.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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