Wisest thing I've learned on this board...

[Double J]

When I used to be a total AFC moron, I used to think that the girl I was looking for would be my prize. I told myself "the right girl is my prize, I hope I'm the prize for her too." How outrageously AFC.. I'm so glad I came across this site and the DJ bible. Within the last year or so, I've only become more and more self-confident, and, whereas before I was doing anything to get a piece of @$$, now I couldn't feel happier with myself. I want women, but I don't need them. If I approach a girl and she rejects me, I think of it as her missing out on the prize, and another girl in the near future getting lucky and winning the prize (at my discretion, of course).

I have to tip my hat to Pook for two very invaluable things he's stated in his posts
1) Never worry about the outcome
2) You are the prize

I wish I would have known this stuff sooner, but oh well.. we have to fail and accept rejection in order to rise to the top sooner or later.

 

[Wiesman44]

careful now. You can't just trick yourself into thinking this state. This comes with having confidence and high self-esteem. You have to truly think you are the prize, it should come natural.

After she rejects you, you mightto the conclusion that she missed out, and that you're the prize.......No my friend it doesnt work that way....

You're not improving yourself, but just brushing off the rejection. If this temporarily helps you recooperate, great. But its only a temporary solution. Get some confidence, feel good about yourself, think you're the best u can possibly be at that point in time, and when she rejects you, you naturally come to the conclusion that she's missing out.

 

[TizZle]

Self-fullfilling prophecy ? I believe it's ok to think that you are the prize but at the same time you have to be working on your flaws. You're going to make mistakes here and there but what the hell that's how people learn. Just identify the flaw that caused you to make that mistake and vow to never do it again. Live and Learn.

 

[squirrels]

I'm laughing about how everyone on here wants to be the sage telling you what you're doing wrong. "Oh no, my son...you must listen to my MASTER DJ skills. For you are sadly mistaken if you think you are as DJ as *I* am."

Congratulations, though, because you HAVE found one of the most important things you'll learn in your seduction of women. As a MAN, you already HAVE a GREAT deal of innate value, both in the unique combination of traits that make up you and, as the "sages" on this thread have said, also in the potential you have for improvement. (which you must also recognize and actualize) Your current set of virtues (and sometimes vices!!) is what makes you a good buy to women now. Your constant improvement and potential to improve further is what makes you a good investement to them.

Just realizing this and understanding that you're NOT just another scrub competing for "a chance" at women, but a MAN with VALUE of your own, value GREATER than that of the average woman, who can market himself and make the LADIES compete over HIM...this is one of the most empowering lessons a "DJ" can learn.

 

[red sky30]

I'm laughing about how everyone on here wants to be the sage telling you what you're doing wrong. "Oh no, my son...you must listen to my MASTER DJ skills. For you are sadly mistaken if you think you are as DJ as *I* am."

word. I let fingers and pook do the preaching.