Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
it aint always that easy...
hey man,....you are scaring the **** outta me!!!Originally posted by quest
it aint always that easy...
mine were growing impacted, but for the best part, unexposed..
they had to cut all of my gums open, and drag the bastards out of there.. BUT if i didn't do it... i'd have some really really messed up teeth (they aren't great now).. i had to have 4 sets of stitches in my gums and i couldn't really brush my teeth for about a week, and could barely eat for a few days..
BUT i did get jelly and ice cream at the hospital
Same with me, they were impacted in the jaw. I had to have them extracted before I got braces when I was about 14 or 15. Oral surgery, put under, the whole works.Originally posted by quest
it aint always that easy...
mine were growing impacted, but for the best part, unexposed..
they had to cut all of my gums open, and drag the bastards out of there.. BUT if i didn't do it... i'd have some really really messed up teeth (they aren't great now).. i had to have 4 sets of stitches in my gums and i couldn't really brush my teeth for about a week, and could barely eat for a few days..
BUT i did get jelly and ice cream at the hospital
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
**** THAT!
Same here. I got them all taken out at once when I was about 15. I got to stay home from school for a couple days, but it wasn't worth it. I could barely eat. I couldn't touch my top and bottom teeth together for a few days, and I looked like a chipmunk.Originally posted by quest
it aint always that easy...
mine were growing impacted, but for the best part, unexposed..
they had to cut all of my gums open, and drag the bastards out of there.. BUT if i didn't do it... i'd have some really really messed up teeth (they aren't great now).. i had to have 4 sets of stitches in my gums and i couldn't really brush my teeth for about a week, and could barely eat for a few days..
BUT i did get jelly and ice cream at the hospital
aslong as i keep brushing them !