"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Winter / Cold-Weather Dates

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Anyone out there have any good ideas for relatively inexpensive winter / cold-weather dates? I did a search, but most of the previous posts seem like they're geared for 16 or 17 year-olds.

Coming up with date ideas always seems to be easier in the summer when there is a lot of stuff going on around town. Everything seems to dry up once the temperature drops.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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puma183

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It may sound cheesy but with one fitness-buff girl we had a first-date at the university gym pool which she used to go to (she was a grad-student). We did some laps, etc. Afterward we went to the sauna room of the same facility, where we made out.

As Borat would say "it is nice"!!!
 

thedeparted

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puma183 said:
It may sound cheesy but with one fitness-buff girl we had a first-date at the university gym pool which she used to go to (she was a grad-student). We did some laps, etc. Afterward we went to the sauna room of the same facility, where we made out.

As Borat would say "it is nice"!!!
Ooh, making out in the sauna... steamy! :yes:
 

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if theres an outside ice rink in your city then take your date there. Would be fun and no better place for kino !
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Desert Fox

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cedd said:
if theres an outside ice rink in your city then take your date there. Would be fun and no better place for kino !
yeah I did this before. pretty awesome...but try to be half decent at skating haha you should be the one supporting her.
 
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