You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Shoot I just wanted to use that as a direct approach so I don't worry about "what am I going to say." In the case of the redhead it was easy to ask her about the planner she was writing in, because I was genuinley interested. With the other chick, I followed up with asking where she was walking to...lame.jdbman11 said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She is definitely smoking. It's hard not to call her an HB10. She works at the tanning salon so I have talked to her a couple times before. I will write out the entire convo tomorrow. I made quite a few AFC moves...Neurosponge said:
jkhaha eff off fuker it's winter. I don't know exactly what the best situation is when walking along the sidewalk, mall, store, etc.. Honestly I've been having alot of trouble with that too. I just try to keep my head and eyes up, think about something else until she gets close, and when she's about 15 feet away i'll look at something right above or behind her which will naturally cause her to look, then i look at her and smile. try it out. i'm sure there are other methods thoughNeurosponge said:haha yeah that def was a rocky convo, but props for pulling through!
Hmm well I can't rlly give that much advice, but I think that if you walked in there with another HB and had fun with her, that would send the message that the HB9.5 is nothing special.
Btw, tanning salon? in Texas? Come oooooon
As for the boot camp, I have a question. I notice that often when walking along the sidewalk, I will spot a girl from quite a distance away, and she'll notice me too, so we might make eye contact. Now, it will prolly take like 10 or so seconds before we are actually within talking distance...do I just focus on her eyes the whole time or what? Should I try not to "notice" her till I'm closer?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Good job so far, and don't worry about it! It sounds like you're waiting too long to say hi. Just say hi on initial eye contact. Greet everyone. Who the **** cares what they think? They're strangers. You'll never see them again. Go out there and finish! You've got this.Neurosponge said:
Well said. And Bond is probably right about the waiting thing. That's what I was doing. I was trying to hold EC for a little too long before saying Hi. It makes it awkward for the stranger and yourself. Like I mentioned before, try to catch their eye contact/vibe and try not to stare at them before they're looking at you. And when you guys meet eyes, smile, "hi!". Go get em bro. Remember it's all in good FUN.Mr. Bond said:
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
jdbman11 said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.