"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Will you Guys flake on a girl who flaked on you?

oneboy21

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There is a chance that she has(compulsary) to meet me
Now at this point, our donjuans say that you have to act un effected, this point makes me feel that we are feeding her ego more. what do you guys think.
How an Donjuan reacts to this situation. I would like to know how our senior donjuans think
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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3countriesPlan

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How is it feeding her ego? I been setting up a lot of meets lately and some girl messages me back to say "I fell down and hurt my ankle now walking is difficult, lets meet after I'm better" what will I do? focus on someone else like the girl who ended up coming out instead of her and who was willing to come all the way across town just to meet me for a quick walk and a small fry at mcdonalds.
 

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But there is no specific reason mentioned here.
Girl did it intentionally. she sent 5 emails/5 texts to set this meeting up
 

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Lemme tell you a story...

I met a girl who displayed extremely high IL. She mis-interpreted something I texted her and said "was that an invitation to invite me over?" and I steered it toward an actual date. We set up a date and a time.

She asked me to send her my address earlier in the day she was supposed to come over. She also knows that I'm a parent, so I had to set up a babysitter and all that fun 5hit. The time she's supposed to be over comes and goes. One hour goes by. Two hours go by. I had set up a babysitter just to have her to flake on me. I could've been spending my time doing something OTHER than waiting for her flaky ass to not show up.

I never contacted her again.
 

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stop playing games with flakey women. your time is too valuable for that foolishness.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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if you thought you had $100 in you pocket and you pulled your money our and counted $99. would you get mad? probably not that much...


women come and go. get more options and you wont care when you lose one.
 

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oneboy21 said:
Should i react, just cool when if i ran into her next time
When I run into situations like that, I do the worst thing I can possibly do to her. I flirt like crazy with the bytch but I don't seal any deals. I'd rather reserve my time for women who are reliable.
 
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oneboy21 said:
Should i react, just cool when if i ran into her next time
If like me, you cannot keep your mouth in check to a person who has been disrespectful to you then do what I do and just ignore that person like they don't exist. If they approach you, walk past like they are a street beggar or something.

Just don't bother with her, if she is going to flake on you, then she isn't interested in you and she doesn't deserve your time or effort. Find someone who likes you and wants to get know you better.
 

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I don't disqualify flakers, I just don't go out of my way for them. No more early planning. Less consideration. Maybe a downgrade from solo dating to having to come meet up with you and your friends somewhere.

Never jeopardize a cooch...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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perseverance said:
Just ignore that person like they don't exist. If they approach you, walk past like they are a street beggar or something.

Just don't bother with her, if she is going to flake on you, then she isn't interested in you and she doesn't deserve your time or effort. Find someone who likes you and wants to get know you better.
I agree with him
They don't deserver your time or attention. Ignore and move on with your life. Spin more plates.
 

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An update on this, Let me know what you think guys

I met this girls boss, who flaked on me
she bought the topics of this girl lets call her ashley

she: so ashley was telling me you were both supposed to go and watch a game, was this this week or next week,
I: it was yesterday
She: did you guys go
I: no
She: aww, Why
I: i called her a week ago to find out and left a voice mail and she didn't reply, so i didn't go.
She: ashley was talking to us about you guys going to the game and she wanted to go, she was busy moving around because of the year end and other stuff, she was genuinely wanted to go.
I: i called her on her cell phone and left a voice mail.
She: is it, our company have a policy of not giving cell phones, you should call on land line thats the best way to reach her, i will talk to her.



I said nothing


What you guys think about this?
How should i react guys?
 

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Cannot really tell whether this women is lieing or playing games,
lets see what other's say

ICEBERG....
 

oneboy21

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An update: i received an email from this girl here it what it says
I missed your call about the game, i am horrible at checking my voice mail, but would still really like to get to a game with you!


DJ's: i request you guys to provide me an insight perspective, I don't want to spend much time into this any more. Thanks fellas
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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