will she come up to me?

[LiftnWeights09]

i asked this girl to our winter formal and she said she'd think about it. well i was wondering should i give her time to think and then come up to me or should i go up to her and say something like so have u made up your mind yet thats wat my friends keep telling me but my instinct is telling not to do that is it right?

 

[IceCream]

I'd like to place a bet that if you go up to her and ask if she has made up her mind yet, she'd give you an excuse. Think about it. If a girl you really liked came up to you and asked you to the dance would you say yes? Yes, you would. However, if a girl you didnt like asked you to dance what would you say? Either no, or give an excuse (i.e. "hmm... I'll think about it").
If a girl truly likes you/interested, she wont let you wait. She'll be jumping all over for you.

 

[LiftnWeights09]

well in class n stuff she usually looks at me n wen i look at her she looks away or down real fast so does that mean shes shy about it i thought so

 

[PleasureKing]

yea ask someone else. if she was serious about the "ill think about it" she would have either called you that night or told you the next day to tell you. most of the time this is an excuse. if you go ask her like a whimp "so did you think about it", she will just have you on her leash.

heres what you should do.

1. go find another girl to go to the dance with.
2. go back to the girl that told you she would think about it and tell her you have found someone else to go with.

DONE. not only will this make her think if she is NOT good enough for you, she will start to wonder what this girl has that she doesnt. make sure you dont tell her this prior to actually asking another girl, or else you might look like a fool if things dont turn out the way you planned.

at all costs, apply C+F if she asks you who it is, and never give direct answers.

example:
her: oh cool. who are you going with?
you: im going with a very...... (pause 2-3 seconds) ....... sexy girl. (smile)

most probably she will try to squeeze it out of you.

her: whats her name?
you: arent you the nosey one. ill tell you what, wait till the formal, and you will see her.
her: BLA BLA BLA
you: well listen i got to go. bye

her ego + confidence DOWN!

 

[LiftnWeights09]

I understand where your coming from, but it is kinda harsh dont get my wrong i like the idea

 

[RestoretheROAR84]

Not harsh at all, isn't she being unfair by making you wait around for her? If she didn't want to go with you you're all set and if she did she should've just said yes and you're not to blame at all for her being unhappy.

 

[LiftnWeights09]

yes its pretty f'd up that ive been waiting a week when i should have gotten it the next day

 

[mpimpin]

your in highschool and depending on the type of girl your talking about she might be shy and/or inexperienced. When your talking to her one day bring it up and see what she says. Don't over analyze and don't be paranoid. If you don't talk to her yourself and finish this your gonna be wondering what coulda been. I'm sure this has made you feel pretty $hitty the last week not knowing. Well that feeling goes away even if its through rejection if you just go talk to her.

 

[LiftnWeights09]

well im postive shes really shy shes nice as could be is why she said "shed think about it" i mean im really shy and i went up and asked her n i thought the next day she would have a yes or a no i mean you can't leave me hanging here forever .

 

[GaryUranga]

dude, NEXT, seriously.

 

[Lust]

Don't linger on.

Like the other guys said, go ask someone else.

She had her chance.

"I swiftly size up a womans potential, and eliminate those who are wasting my time" - Ross Jeffries, Unstoppable Confidence.

Think about it, it's not worth your time, go find someone else.