"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Will my ex try and get back with me?

The North Dragon

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so recently i posted a new thread about dumping my ex gf

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=194035

I am a new to this site and i already know u guys will hate me for this but i wanna get ths relationship back on track despite all the crap that goes on inbetween. When we were together it really was great however i only realise how good she was to me when were apart?
This is my first proper LTR so mabye my thinkin is way off on this one and there will be loads of other women etc. My town is pretty small and aint many women or thier either taken n it just seems hard to get a decent one here lol.
i have high standards and will not just pull anything unlike some of my mates. Unsure if thats a good thing or bad.
Anyway its been 3 days since we spoke/dumped her so were bascially at NC atm.given time will she come crawling back and what do i do? do i ignore her or...?
thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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zekko

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If you wanted to stay with her you shouldn't have dumped her.
Although I find the idea of "taking breaks" from the relationship to be a very unhealthy sign. Even if you guys get back together it's probably not going to work out in the long run.
 
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