Will I get lucky - an update! Extremely embarrassed!

[Coppaia]

Okey, so I have told you about this waitress that I have been trying to land. Yesterday I visited her and went along with her friends to a concert. After the concert we all went to sleep to our separate rooms, I was given the sleeping couch. After half an hour I woke up by my woman climbing into my bed and we started to have sex. She was really wet and all was going well, but then she suddenly stops and says "no, this isn't working. You are my friend!". To my great embarrassment I think that I said that I was in love with her. The rest of the night we just slept side by side and she rebuffed me every time I tried to pick it up again.

My question to you is, what should I do? We are working together and are really good friends, but I can't tolerate her behavior can I!? So on the one side the bible says that men should never complain etc but on the other hand if I just take it with a smile she will never respect me as a man.

 

[parkthebus]

Guilt trip her into making her think her behaviour was poor. Sit her down and talk to her like a child. Then give her the cold shoulder. Watch the IL rise.

 

[marmel75]

Must not have been very good for her to stop that abruptly. Obviously you and her had differing opinions of it "going well"

 

[JohnChops]

you said "i loveyou" to a girl you barley know during sex..... my ****ing god. That really sucks she stopped right in the middle, I would've just left, seriously. Why bother staying?

also I hate to say it but ive heard countless of stories from girls and their friends about how if the sex is really bad, they will just stop and get off/make an excuse. Most will just keep going, fake an orgasm/let you finish but the ones that are very blunt that don't give a fvck are the ones that will make the excuse and stop right in the middle. Gottak now how to push them buttttonnzzzzz man

 

[Coppaia]

you said "i loveyou" to a girl you barley know during sex..... my ****ing god. That really sucks she stopped right in the middle, I would've just left, seriously. Why bother staying?

also I hate to say it but ive heard countless of stories from girls and their friends about how if the sex is really bad, they will just stop and get off/make an excuse. Most will just keep going, fake an orgasm/let you finish but the ones that are very blunt that don't give a fvck are the ones that will make the excuse and stop right in the middle. Gottak now how to push them buttttonnzzzzz man

No, we know eachother well and it was ment as a joke when she said that we were friends etc, etc it has been our tone,, but in retrospect I am afraid that it came out not as a joke. Anyhow I was waken up from a deaddrunk slumber and I wasn't thinking clearly

 

[Reykhel]

No, we know eachother well and it was ment as a joke when she said that we were friends etc, etc it has been our tone,, but in retrospect I am afraid that it came out not as a joke. Anyhow I was waken up from a deaddrunk slumber and I wasn't thinking clearly

I meant it as a joke.......yeah let's learn from that experience, no? If a girl said that to me...I'd have to take it
at face value. and I would lower her fvcking value. It's all about value my friend. Frame is all about value.

Look, after you've got her interest...you simply have to show a little disinterest....it's simply the way it works.

the sex thing, I think you got swept away by your emotions. obviously you don't feel like that. You just need to reframe your thinkking "oh she likes that so much the biatch" seriously you reframe yourself

you need to think of yourself as a greek god and if you don't ask yourself why and there is
where you need to work on bro

 

[dustmuffin]

Never ever tell a woman you love her..Especially in your situation....you learned a lesson move on.

 

[Huffman]

Ok anyway one thing you can try next time is tell her you literally can't sleep if she's lying next to you and your entire next day is going to be sh!t and you don't want that.

I love this power move because it's very harsh on the one side, but perfectly reasonable on the other side.