Wifey laments: My Husband Turned His Life Around. I Wasn't Prepared For How Much I'd Resent It.

[MatureDJ]

My Husband Turned His Life Around. I Wasn't Prepared For How Much I'd Resent It.

While I admired his growth into a woke, fit and sexy man, I paid scant attention to my own.

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One day, my husband walked right past a formerly substantial colleague, now as lithe as a teenage ballerina. He spent a week raving about how much weight his friend had lost, and wanted to give the Keto diet a shot.

It bears noting that my husband’s version of the low-carb, high-fat diet didn’t include any of my favourite foods: Twix bars, kettle chips and that delish double-layered chocolate cake from Metro.

As he conscientiously grilled chicken or fish for his lunch, I’d watch sucking on just one spoonful of Nutella.

He did this every day for months. While I admired his growth into a woke, fit and sexy man, I paid scant attention to my own. I felt like he had raced past me in life.

In my resentment, I felt that he had taken that special time away from me — you’d find him at the gym every morning, sometimes even on weekends, instead. I’ve done my bit to sabotage his routine, faked illness, the blues and even diarrhea to get him to skip. He fell for it (once!), but quickly wised up to my sulking, fake tears and occasional threats of divorce.

“We can work out together, you know,” my husband reminded me one day.

my opinion: He's ready to upgrade, darling. It's your choice - him or your junk-food obsession.

 

[cola]

Man, marriage is a partnership that’s not how it works @MatureDJ .. you don’t get fit and leave your wife that’s an a-hole move. After 20 years you develop a bond deeper than looks I’d hope.

You encourage her gently to get on board.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Man, marriage is a partnership that’s not how it works @MatureDJ .. you don’t get fit and leave your wife that’s an a-hole move. After 20 years you develop a bond deeper than looks I’d hope.

You encourage her gently to get on board.

And if she wants to remain a fat pig it’s within a man’s right to leave.

 

[cola]

And if she wants to remain a fat pig it’s within a man’s right to leave.

Yes, if she decides she doesn’t want to change her lifestyle to a healthier one.. you are in your right to leave because your lifestyles aren’t congruent.

But you don’t just get down to 8% body fat and leave your wife just like that.

 

[GioWolf]

Classic dread. Women want to fatten you up so it’s harder for you to cheat. Then they dead bedroom you because you’re a fat p.o.s.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Man, marriage is a partnership that’s not how it works @MatureDJ .. you don’t get fit and leave your wife that’s an a-hole move. After 20 years you develop a bond deeper than looks I’d hope.

You encourage her gently to get on board.

Some of them were competitive in a bad way. Thus gains on your end anger them. It's crazy. It depends upon her personality.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Classic dread. Women want to fatten you up so it’s harder for you to cheat. Then they dead bedroom you because you’re a fat p.o.s.

They cvck that bytch azz. It's open season on husbands and boyfriends.

 

[zekko]

If you read the entire article, she does come around at the end. She's eating a healthier diet and started going to the gym.

I've seen this sort of thing cause problems in relationships before though. And from both sexes, not just the man or just the woman. People don't all grow at the same rate, or at the same times. Expecting your spouse to be in sync with every direction you want to go in is not realistic. Especially if it's a sudden change.

 

[The Diver]

Man, marriage is a partnership that’s not how it works

You encourage her gently to get on board.

When I hit my 50 I started my journey back to fitness, I started cycling long distance and did some gym.
I remember back then, as I got fitter, my wife, at the time, got fatter. There was no point trying to encourage her to do any fitness activity, she never liked physical activity.
I remember returning from 100km cycling in the weekend, seeing her on the couch watching another stupid movie with a pack of crisp in her hand, getting fatter and fatter. It really disgusted and depressed me, but I knew her for 20Y and knew there's no point talking to her.
Yes, marriage is a partnership, but you need two for tango!

 

[Georgepithyou]

This woman is a legit psychopath and needs to be locked up

 

[mrgoodstuff]

This woman is a legit psychopath and needs to be locked up

Many of them do just short of killing you.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I dont see how a woman that willingly tries to sabotage the self improvement process of her husband to be in a position to demand anything.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Yes, if she decides she doesn’t want to change her lifestyle to a healthier one.. you are in your right to leave because your lifestyles aren’t congruent.

But you don’t just get down to 8% body fat and leave your wife just like that.

She had at least 6 months to 'get on board'. Instead she chose to suck on her Nutella and try to sabotage him. And he DID encourage her. He made a healthy smoothie for both of them every morning for months, and he led by example like a real man. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.

At the bottom of the article she says she's dragging herself to the gym three times a week and binging Netflix on the stairmaster. That sounds like a lethargic complainer, like a person that doesn't really want to change. The entire article is a testament to her terrible work ethic and lack of self discipline. He didn't leave, but he did start focusing on himself to achieve his goals, good man.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

They cvck that bytch azz. It's open season on husbands and boyfriends.

You know i ain't lyin. A hardened feminist contact described in words. Just cause she got a husband or boyfriend don't mean she gotta fvck him. She don't have to do jack for him. And she's free to have a promiscuous sexuality. So in those situations a husband or bf is just a "straw man" or "the invisible man" or just a cvck.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She had at least 6 months to 'get on board'. Instead she chose to suck on her Nutella and try to sabotage him. And he DID encourage her. He made a healthy smoothie for both of them every morning for months, and he led by example like a real man. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.

At the bottom of the article she says she's dragging herself to the gym three times a week and binging Netflix on the stairmaster. That sounds like a lethargic complainer, like a person that doesn't really want to change. The entire article is a testament to her terrible work ethic and lack of self discipline. He didn't leave, but he did start focusing on himself to achieve his goals, good man.

Alot if them do shyt just to copy cat or compete with someone else.

 

[xplt]

I dont see how a woman that willingly tries to sabotage the self improvement process of her husband to be in a position to demand anything.

I can sing a song about that. "You became too confident for me..." wtf

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I can sing a song about that. "You became too confident for me..." wtf

We need solutions. Perhaps enlightenement living at a higher lebel requires you to change groups?

 

[zekko]

At the bottom of the article she says she's dragging herself to the gym three times a week and binging Netflix on the stairmaster. That sounds like a lethargic complainer, like a person that doesn't really want to change.

If that's true, give her credit for doing it even if she doesn't want to. That's real self discipline, to force yourself to do something you don't want to do, just because it's good for you.

 

[Beekeeper_Brent]

One of married women’s favorite “**** tests” is to make sure the fridge is stocked with your favorite temptations, and to have carb-centric meals available. After all, “she needs to eat dinner, too”.

Keeping us pudgy, low energy and in a state of physical insecurity (unattractiveness) is one way to reign in the married man.

Resisting her **** tests and making improvements puts her on check, raises her insecurities, and desire to bed you again. Its a win-win. Do it for you. And enjoy the benefits.

 

[Robert28]

But you don’t just get down to 8% body fat and leave your wife just like that.

Sure you do. Why? Because we know damn well she’d do it to him if the roles were reversed. And she’d get half of everything.