"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ChrisFloyd said:
OP, I just have something I wonder about this:

1. How was she when you first got to know her?
2. Are you the only one who use this Sosuave's account? By that I mean all the threads created before this by this account were yours also, is that right?

Hope you answer.
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No one has access to my account. When I first met she seemed okay, but now looking back I think she held back lot of information about her health.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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way2smart said:
No one has access to my account. When I first met she seemed okay, but now looking back I think she held back lot of information about her health.
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I do not want to be nosy, but based on your posting history, your wife just appeared out of no where in the picture.

What I mean is that by June 2015, you were still talking about your plate and how you allegedly got her pregnant. However, by Oct 2015, you were suddenly talking about your wife. I can only interpret this as you were big on cheating based on your posting history. Or it took you only a few months to marry this woman (your wife) without proper considerations.
 
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I do not want to be nosy, but based on your posting history, your wife just appeared out of no where in the picture.

What I mean is that by June 2015, you were still talking about your plate and how you allegedly got her pregnant. However, by Oct 2015, you were suddenly talking about your wife. I can only interpret this as you were big on cheating based on your posting history. Or it took you only a few months to marry this woman (your wife) without proper considerations.
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When i was talking about my plate in June, I have already ended my relationship with her long before then. It's just that my plate appeared out of the blue in June claiming that she is pregnant, which I found out later was a lie.

However I did get married quickly, I met my wife in March, got exclusive in May and married in August. I should have spent more time to screen her better.

I have no history of cheating whatsoever and I have no reason to lie to strangers.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LiveYourDream said:
This is an example of oneitis blindness, and it's destruction, on the fast track. Signs of oneitis blindness include, the loss clear perception and the subsequent loss of rational decision making.

Never think you are immune. Always keep yourself in check. If your friends suggest you are not seeing clearly, listen, and truly consider their input, as it could save you big time.
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I agree it was a bad decision on my part. But all my friends liked her, in fact she did all the chasing and stuff.
 
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way2smart, would it be possible for you to tell your wife she has BPD and suggest she go into therapy?
 
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If she is a trump supporter then maybe you two can work things out. If she's in favor of piggary ****on then you need to leave her ass in the dust.
 
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When i was talking about my plate in June, I have already ended my relationship with her long before then. It's just that my plate appeared out of the blue in June claiming that she is pregnant, which I found out later was a lie.

However I did get married quickly, I met my wife in March, got exclusive in May and married in August. I should have spent more time to screen her better.

I have no history of cheating whatsoever and I have no reason to lie to strangers.
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is this real life?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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is this real life?
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Yes, as stated multiple times. This isn't some kind of tribunal where i stand before judges and defend myself. I know what I did and I don't care what others think. What's done is done, nothing can change that.

I am open to any other suggestions or advice as to what I can do in the future, but stop criticizing for what I already did. It gets old, fast.
 
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Yes, as stated multiple times. This isn't some kind of tribunal where i stand before judges and defend myself. I know what I did and I don't care what others think. What's done is done, nothing can change that.

I am open to any other suggestions or advice as to what I can do in the future, but stop criticizing for what I already did. It gets old, fast.
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sometimes you need criticism to drill your mistakes into your mind so you never ever forget it. that's some life ruining **** you just did there and it would do you a favor if we nailed you to some wood for a bit here
 
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