"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ChrisFloyd said:
OP, I just have something I wonder about this:

1. How was she when you first got to know her?
2. Are you the only one who use this Sosuave's account? By that I mean all the threads created before this by this account were yours also, is that right?

Hope you answer.
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No one has access to my account. When I first met she seemed okay, but now looking back I think she held back lot of information about her health.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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way2smart said:
No one has access to my account. When I first met she seemed okay, but now looking back I think she held back lot of information about her health.
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I do not want to be nosy, but based on your posting history, your wife just appeared out of no where in the picture.

What I mean is that by June 2015, you were still talking about your plate and how you allegedly got her pregnant. However, by Oct 2015, you were suddenly talking about your wife. I can only interpret this as you were big on cheating based on your posting history. Or it took you only a few months to marry this woman (your wife) without proper considerations.
 
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I do not want to be nosy, but based on your posting history, your wife just appeared out of no where in the picture.

What I mean is that by June 2015, you were still talking about your plate and how you allegedly got her pregnant. However, by Oct 2015, you were suddenly talking about your wife. I can only interpret this as you were big on cheating based on your posting history. Or it took you only a few months to marry this woman (your wife) without proper considerations.
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When i was talking about my plate in June, I have already ended my relationship with her long before then. It's just that my plate appeared out of the blue in June claiming that she is pregnant, which I found out later was a lie.

However I did get married quickly, I met my wife in March, got exclusive in May and married in August. I should have spent more time to screen her better.

I have no history of cheating whatsoever and I have no reason to lie to strangers.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LiveYourDream said:
This is an example of oneitis blindness, and it's destruction, on the fast track. Signs of oneitis blindness include, the loss clear perception and the subsequent loss of rational decision making.

Never think you are immune. Always keep yourself in check. If your friends suggest you are not seeing clearly, listen, and truly consider their input, as it could save you big time.
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I agree it was a bad decision on my part. But all my friends liked her, in fact she did all the chasing and stuff.
 
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way2smart, would it be possible for you to tell your wife she has BPD and suggest she go into therapy?
 
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If she is a trump supporter then maybe you two can work things out. If she's in favor of piggary ****on then you need to leave her ass in the dust.
 
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When i was talking about my plate in June, I have already ended my relationship with her long before then. It's just that my plate appeared out of the blue in June claiming that she is pregnant, which I found out later was a lie.

However I did get married quickly, I met my wife in March, got exclusive in May and married in August. I should have spent more time to screen her better.

I have no history of cheating whatsoever and I have no reason to lie to strangers.
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is this real life?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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is this real life?
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Yes, as stated multiple times. This isn't some kind of tribunal where i stand before judges and defend myself. I know what I did and I don't care what others think. What's done is done, nothing can change that.

I am open to any other suggestions or advice as to what I can do in the future, but stop criticizing for what I already did. It gets old, fast.
 
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way2smart said:
Yes, as stated multiple times. This isn't some kind of tribunal where i stand before judges and defend myself. I know what I did and I don't care what others think. What's done is done, nothing can change that.

I am open to any other suggestions or advice as to what I can do in the future, but stop criticizing for what I already did. It gets old, fast.
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sometimes you need criticism to drill your mistakes into your mind so you never ever forget it. that's some life ruining **** you just did there and it would do you a favor if we nailed you to some wood for a bit here
 
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