Wierd situation

[XSilverStarboyX]

Well I just returned from a 3.5 week homestay in Japan. I had lots of fun only I believe I have fallen for my host families daughter. I never of course said anything to her because I felt that would make life akward had she not been interested in me. Now that Im home, I feel as though Im now obsessed with her, but I dont want to dedicate my life to her seeing as how of course we arent married or anything. What can I do about this? I would think date someone else, but I wasnt sure if there was anything else

 

[Contender]

Why have you fallen for her? Usually, our first crushes, and the first few chicks we fall for are merely just obsessions. It's nothing tangable.

It's just an attachment because we experienced something with that person for the first time. She's probably the first girl you've slept over with, and had a great time with... staying up late... checking her ass out in her pajamas. Her waking you up gently in the morning, and chilling in the city after breakfast.

I've been there, too; in my local area, not Japan. But, these things fade, because it is not *usually* 'real.'

Ask yourself, why do you really 'love' her? How many gfs have you had? How many did you 'love?'

 

[XSilverStarboyX]

Why have you fallen for her? Usually, our first crushes, and the first few chicks we fall for are merely just obsessions. It's nothing tangable.

It's just an attachment because we experienced something with that person for the first time. She's probably the first girl you've slept over with, and had a great time with... staying up late... checking her ass out in her pajamas. Her waking you up gently in the morning, and chilling in the city after breakfast.

I've been there, too; in my local area, not Japan. But, these things fade, because it is not *usually* 'real.'

Ask yourself, why do you really 'love' her? How many gfs have you had? How many did you 'love?'

Yes she is the first girl I spent the night with and all the stuff you mentioned, and no I have never gone past first base before. I had 2 girlfriends and only loved one. The one I loved was long distance so most people dont count her. BUt now that I answered the questions for you. What are you trying to say?

 

[XSilverStarboyX]

dont mean to bump this up but I do want a response

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

lol dude its obvious what hes trying to say. you are NOT experienced. you don't know what 'love' is. right now you are obsessing about a chick that (im guessing you aren't from japan) is wayyy too far from where you live -- its stupid and unhealthy... because you'll lose sleep over it.

but if you still don't know what hes trying to say... hes saying... you are unexperienced with girls... and you need to experience more situations with them so you can understand what's going on more... i mean cmon man youre 18... you haven't experienced what people have experienced when they were 14.

go out and get chicks.

 

[Penguinplayer]

Move on, not being harsh, beng realistic

 

[XSilverStarboyX]

Oh, I was just saying, I know I shouldnt chain myself down to one person. But its kind of hard at the same time

 

[XSilverStarboyX]

lol dude its obvious what hes trying to say. you are NOT experienced. you don't know what 'love' is. right now you are obsessing about a chick that (im guessing you aren't from japan) is wayyy too far from where you live -- its stupid and unhealthy... because you'll lose sleep over it.

but if you still don't know what hes trying to say... hes saying... you are unexperienced with girls... and you need to experience more situations with them so you can understand what's going on more... i mean cmon man youre 18... you haven't experienced what people have experienced when they were 14.

go out and get chicks.

I think Im starting to get over it. I still miss her but I dont kick my ass over it. Not that I ever did. Im just going to let things happen now. If someone approaches me thats interesting. Im gonna go for it.