"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Wierd flake

M

Myrrdin

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 12, 2010
Messages
123
Reaction score
5
Location
Middle of Nowhere
Hello Dons,

I am in need of a little guidance. On saturday I made out with one of the girls I've been gaming. I took her to my place and we started making out again. Couldn't break LMR sadly. On tuesday we went out again and she brought up relationship issue and I was for it. Wednesday there was little contact, only 2 text exchanges. Today, I tried to call her. She rejected all of my calls after the first ring. I called her 2 times , 1.5 hours wait between them. I then sent a text "Why aren't you answering?". I called again once after an hour. Nothing. She rejected all of them.

Her IL was pretty high the last time I saw her and she was very excited.

Thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

I

Iceberg

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 19, 2002
Messages
3,110
Reaction score
136
Age
45
Location
Manhattan, NY
Myrrdin said:
Hello Dons,

I am in need of a little guidance. On saturday I made out with one of the girls I've been gaming. I took her to my place and we started making out again. Couldn't break LMR sadly. On tuesday we went out again and she brought up relationship issue and I was for it. Wednesday there was little contact, only 2 text exchanges. Today, I tried to call her. She rejected all of my calls after the first ring. I called her 2 times , 1.5 hours wait between them. I then sent a text "Why aren't you answering?". I called again once after an hour. Nothing. She rejected all of them.

Her IL was pretty high the last time I saw her and she was very excited.

Thoughts?
Click to expand...
What do you mean she brought up a relationship issue and you were for it?
 
M

Myrrdin

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 12, 2010
Messages
123
Reaction score
5
Location
Middle of Nowhere
She told me she wanted a relationship with me and I was like: Yeah, cool.
 
I

Iceberg

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 19, 2002
Messages
3,110
Reaction score
136
Age
45
Location
Manhattan, NY
Myrrdin said:
She told me she wanted a relationship with me and I was like: Yeah, cool.
Click to expand...
So you agreed to commit to a relationship with a girl a few days after making out with her for the first time?

That might be cute in 6th grade, but you're a 22 year old man.

Sorry, man. But that's an awful move. You have to make a woman earn a relationship with you. It can't just be something you hand over to a girl after making out once. You've been a member since September of last year? You should know better. A woman wants a chase. She doesn't want you wrapped around her fingers before you even get her panties off....

Learn and move forward.
 
M

Myrrdin

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 12, 2010
Messages
123
Reaction score
5
Location
Middle of Nowhere
Yeah, it was a pretty newb move from my part.

But still. Why won't she answer? She lost interest?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

I

Iceberg

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 19, 2002
Messages
3,110
Reaction score
136
Age
45
Location
Manhattan, NY
Myrrdin said:
Yeah, it was a pretty newb move from my part.

But still. Why won't she answer? She lost interest?
Click to expand...
She's a girl. So at the end of the day, who knows how they think. Lost interest. Buyer's remorse. A guy who's more of a challenge. Could be anything.

But, she made out with a new guy (you) on Saturday and by Tuesday, she got him to commit to a relationship. What's left for her to be excited about?

It's like taking a girl home on the first night. It's fun, but afterwards you might think "Well, I banged you already...so what else is there?" You're the male equivalent of an "Easy" girl. She put in a minimal investment and already got you to give up everything.
 
the_stig

the_stig

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 30, 2010
Messages
466
Reaction score
56
Location
Central Time Zone
Stop calling her! Sounds like you're smoothering her to death. Do not contact her anymore, and if you haven't heard from her in a few days, write her off. Some girls are weird like that, she probably lost interest because she conquered you so easily.
 
P

Pimp-sicle

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 27, 2003
Messages
2,457
Reaction score
101
Location
Pimpsylvania
Why do newbies always come here asking for advice AFTER they KNOW they've already fuvked it up? Okay maybe not always, but 9/10 this is the case.

Sorry, I'm not trying to sound harsh, but at what point did you think calling and texting so much within 2 hours was a good idea?

It seems like this girl controls you; everything about you. Your mood, your attitude and your outlook on life....step away for a minute and re-evaluate.

You f-ed up, she sounds like she's more complex than you realize. Leave her alone for a few days and see if she calls you.

Lastly, GOLDEN RULE OF LIFE: NEVER enter into an exclusive, committed relationship with a girl you have not slept with yet.

I'm sure there's the .001 percent exceptions to this rule, but 99% of the time if you hand over the keys to your car without knowing what kind of person is driving, your bound to lose your ride.





PIMP
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top